If you were attending the funeral of your mother or father?

Question

would you be composed enough to speak and give a eulogy at the service or would you not be able to due to the emotion???

Answer 1

wen u get there u will know if u can or not there is no shame in not being able to or breaking down wen u do giv a speech i did at my mums funeral the most hardest thing i ever did tho all our family n friends said how well i did i dont remember much about it as i took no speech with me i just said wot came from my heart its a sad fact of life that we all lose sum 1 we love but it can only make us stronger in life

Answer 2

My father died 16 months ago. Sometimes it feels like yesterday. He died on the Saturday night and we had the funeral on the following Friday which was quick, but we had a family wedding the next week and didnt want to have a funeral and a wedding in the same week.

When a parent dies it is a huge shock, however old or ill they are, and i certainly did not think i would be able to speak at my father's funeral. I didnt think about doing so at all, until maybe 2 days before the funeral and then this idea started to form in my mind that i would say a prayer.

I am quite shy and don't like public speaking, but i knew if i didnt that i would not get the chance again. I also knew none of my three sisters would be able to speak. I believe in God and every day asked for the strength to do this.

I decided to say my favourite prayer - The prayer of St. Francis of Assissi. I typed it out in big letters so that it would be easier to read. When the time came i got up and stood next to the coffin and rested one hand on it, while i read the prayer. I didnt break down in tears the whole funeral service, although did at the gathering afterwards.

I wonder why you ask? If you do feel you want to speak at a parent's funeral, then i think it is a lovely thing to do, and may God give you strength and comfort you in your loss.

Answer 3

No I don't think I could give a eulogy, I would leave that to one of their many friends. I would arrange their funerals very carefully, choosing the music to be just right etc. There are some great poems too, which someone else could read out, but I'd be fussy and pick a really good reader. Some people are rubbish at reading aloud.

Answer 4

I know I couldn't have the strength to get up and speak. I went to a funeral 2 years ago of a family friend, I didn't even know him really and I was crying uncontrollably in the church.....so, to speak at my mum or dads funeral.....maybe in the future when I'm older and been to more funerals.... I would probably feel guilty after but I would rather someone speak who would be able to compose them-self! I would sit and listen very well to what other people were saying though. It may sound terrible but thats how I feel.

Answer 5

I was too upset at my mum's funeral to say anything. When my dad died I made a promise to myself that I wouldn't falter this time. I scribbled some notes on a piece of paper as I knew my brain would be mush come the day. When I went up to say my piece my mouth opened and I tried to speak but I almost broke down at that moment. I composed myself and then started again. I used my notes as a prop and found that the further into my speech I got, the easier it became and I even finished with a smile on my face. I'm not saying it was easy and it may need more than one attempt but I am oh so glad that i did it.

Answer 6

I couldnt give a eulogy for anyone whose funeral I was attending. I get very emotional at funerals and can usually only sit and listen to other people speaking, I even have trouble singing the hymns. But I must admit, that I admire anyone who can get up and speak at someones funeral. It's just as well that some people can hold it together to honour their deceased family/friends, I just couldnt.

Answer 7

For myself, at my mothers funeral ( over 10 years ago) I did not speak. I was the second oldest of 5 children and I did not ever feel my mother loved me. Two of my siblings did speak, but I have no recall what they said. My father who is 72 and doing well, I anticipate I will give a eulogy at his memorial service. I will share with all who attend loving fond, and grateful memoires of the love he gave me. As far as my deceased mother, in my mind , I talk with her often and am still working through the emotional and physical pain she harmed me with.

Answer 8

Having been through both, I felt far too upset at the funeral services to get up and speak, although there is a part of me that wished I had done.
My parents were both Catholic, and although I'm an aetheist, I thought the priest who conducted the services did so with great empathy and sensitvity. He spoke to my sisters and me several times before the services, talked with us about our parents and at the service spoke on our behalf, which made things just that little bit easier.

Answer 9

It was very difficult, but I gave the eulogy at my mother's funeral. It got easier as I spoke and looked at the people who were there to honor her memory and support our family. Also, even if you break down, that speaks to the feeling of loss and love that you have and those who are gathered probably share the same feelings and will certainly understand.

Answer 10

Interesting, and a question I've thought about alot.
I didnt have the opportunity to speak at my father's funeral.
My mother's not dead yet, and yes I think I will speak at hers.
I dont know if I'll be composed enough to do it, but I think I owe it to her memory to be the one to tell people what she was like to me, and not have a vicar/funeral service person who didnt know her stand in front of everyone and read from a script that means nothing to them.