Girls. how are you INdependent. .. I mean. what do you do to be independent of guys.. not clingy.... any secrets?? routines? how did you start being independet... I want to be independent coffident and succesfull in life.. any advice would be GREATLY appreciated! ps: mostly independent from guys... ;)
2006-10-31 11:33:48 · 11 answers · asked by :) BE HAPPY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are some boys who are indepednan too
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2006-10-31 11:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by mell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all women should be strong, confident, and independent for themselves. There are steps you can take such as
First, by going school and finding a great career to support yourself. Don't ask anybody, especially guys for money, Buy want you want with your money, Find an apartment and pay your bills and car note, and Don't fish for compliments or depends on a guy to define you. Really no secret or routines. Remember, you don't need a guy to establish you and make you complete, do what you want and live you life for you then the confidence, success, and power will come after. It helps to have great friends, lots of hobbies and activities, and a strong role model for support. Also, it helps to have great self esteem and respect for yourself. Learn how to be comfortable in your own skin and figure out who you are and who you want to be in life.
2006-10-31 19:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question. I urge all women to be independent of men. Then, when you do get into a relationship, it is an equal partnership, not one person playing dumb for another. How to start? Interview yourself. Like a reporter, begin by writing down your answers to some basic questions. For example: Who am I? What do I admire? What are my values? Where is my talent? etc etc. In other words, get to know yourself. And once you have done that, then start cultivating some of those aspects of yourself. Begin to think that you deserve to be respected because you have such worth as a creative person. Challenge yourself to take on aspect of your life (your educational skills, your language skills, your artistic skills, etc etc) and improve them. Take an evening class. Spend time with other woman doing things that stretch your minds and give you a sense of purpose (go to a museum with some gf's; get some gf's to work with you on a project like Habitat for Humanity) etc. Little by little, get to understand just how deep and complex you are. Grow yourself. And when you meet a guy, you will feel much more confident and together.
2006-10-31 19:40:58 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Practice going out shopping by yourself. Work you way up to drinking in a cafe by yourself. Then go out to eat at a nice place without carrying a book (without your cellphone). Take kickboxing/dance classes. Be busy and enjoy yourself. Take some extra courses at your local university. Basically, spend all of your spare time working on yourself to become a better you. Take care of yourself and volunteer when you can. Helping others (like visiting nursing homes to read to the elderly) will give you a totally different view of life as you know it. Buena Suerte!
2006-10-31 19:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about 2 years ago i started taking myself out to dinner and a movie alone maybe once or twice a month. it was really really scary and weird and uncomfortable at first but it really helped me become more independent and able to do things on my own without feeling like i HAVE to be with someone 24/7.
2006-10-31 19:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lauryn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to see that everything you want to do in life, you can absolutely do it without a man. Even having kids. So, sure, men help around and it's lovely to have one near you, but mainly you have to depend on yourself. Girls are great !!
2006-10-31 19:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Setsuna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your in school then focus on school or if you work then focus on work. Or you can start a new hobbies it could be anything really. Spend time with your girlfriends. Just have fun doing things that you want to do.
2006-10-31 19:37:48 · answer #7 · answered by Britters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby. Think about something you like to do. Join a club about it. You will meet people who like the same things and not think of guys in terms of whether or not you can get a date.
2006-10-31 19:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just need to realize that u dont need them that they are not a need just a desire and u need to be able to make yourself happy without one and that is when u know that u can accomplish anything on your own and that u dont need a man to support you and that is what makes you independent from guys i think u just need to beleive in yourself
2006-10-31 19:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, honestly, you really cannot live without them. i would be miserable without my man. who wants to be alone? everyone needs to have a partner in life - you just have to find someone compatible. when you meet a guy, just be yourself, if it's meant to be then let it be, if not, it's ok just remember to have fun and respect yourself and respect him.
2006-10-31 19:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋