2006-10-31 11:28:38 · 32 answers · asked by chandra 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I think we all want the same things, sort of, someone to care for us and for us to care for and to have a family and whatever. But, not everyone is ready or right for that with each other. This is however, how we find out what we want or like in someone or what we hate or don't want in someone that may later be our husbands. It gives us experience in dealling with situations and gives us, hopefully, coping mechanisms for that future pairing off process. Making better choices when we do get there. It's the mating game in a sense.
2006-10-31 11:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you've asked this question. All the girlfriends I've had have assumed, at some point, that the next stage is marriage...and that, if we were not heading in that direction, then the relationship is a waste of time, because the relationship isn't going anywhere. In fact, that's generally why the relationships have ended (yes, I'm yet another man with commitment problems, ho hum).
So, I think the answer to your question is 'yes, otherwise you're not heading in any direction together'.
2006-10-31 11:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Snowth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No !!! It all depends on the "boy" and the qualities you are looking for in your "future husband". Some "boy-friends" end up becoming great friends, advisors and sometimes they even keep us from making wrong decision when it comes to men.
Just remember to always be yourself and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
2006-10-31 11:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pulgita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly not!! Make sure you love whoever you are going to marry. Make sure you like him too, this is very important. Check his family out remember whoever you marry you marry into their family too! Enjoy the relationship make sure it's a two way street. You both have to have an enjoyable time. It's a learning curve in your life, take the good with the bad out of it. If by some strange quirk of fate you fall in love and you will know then decide then.
Dont' rush
2006-10-31 11:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you don't want him too. It's up to you. Do you want him to be your husband? If not then no but if you feel like you want him to be then maybe you should ask him in a nice way!! How long have you been with your boyfriend anyway?
2006-10-31 11:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. No. And, um, let me see...HELL NO! I am actually struggling with the same question right now. I have a large fear of committment - won't even tell you the sky is blue. (: The guy I've been dating for almost 3 months just asked me to be his girlfriend - talk about freaked out. However, I love him. So, while it scares the peepers out of me to even commit to BF/GF, I said yes. Almost immediately of course, my brain started going a bazillion miles a minute and I had us at the alter before sundown. I slowed down, took roughly 3,000 calming breaths, decided I didn't belong in a sanitarium, puilled my head out of my nether regions and just decided to enjoy the darn moment and see where it goes. Just because I said I'd be his GF and just because we are in love, does not by any stretch of the imagination (even my over-active one! :) mean we HAVE to get married. Maybe someday we will (yikes!) and maybe we won't. I've decided not to freak out about it and just live it...enjoy it. What will be will be and all that other stuff 'they' say...
Best of luck with your guy! Don't sweat it...just appreciate it and take your time - it'll all work its' self out.
2006-10-31 11:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because you don't know how your going to feel 3 months from now. so he's not future husband he's right new husband.
2006-10-31 11:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Shakira R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason that everytime you date someone you have to think of them as your future spouse. You never know what is going to happen, so until you become engaged don't feel like you are already committed.
2006-10-31 11:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by D P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!
Of course not!
Boyfriend doesn't even have to be boyfriend 3 days from now.
Just as long as you both know where the relationship is heading it is all good!
2006-10-31 11:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. just go with the flow. and have fun... if you don't make plans like that you will all ways be open to change. so if it dose not work out you wont be hurt and stuck on stupid because you thought he was the one. just have fun, and if that is where life has taken you then great! but never set yourself up to be disappointed. all tho he might be the one just take it slow...
Good Luck!
2006-10-31 11:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by sierrajones37 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋