my real question is: I was with this girl for 3 years and suddenly last month she told me she didn't wanna be with me anymore. Yesterday I texted her just to see how she was and she told me she was glad I texted her and she missed me a lot and she wanted to restart the relationship. Why did she say this after a month and why did she wait for me to get in contact with her?
2006-10-31 11:16:37 · 23 answers · asked by smvhammysmv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She was confused. she just wanted to see where her love for you was. and she waited for your phone call because to female if you call her after so long that means you still feel for her. so i advice you to just ask her and don't be rude about say can i ask you question she will say yeah then say why did you leave me. she will answer it but be gentle because it might remind very badly why she left. then you show her the reason why you took her back and that's because you love her.
2006-10-31 11:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Shakira R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I highly recommend that you do not go back into this relationship. Chances are if she broke up with you after 3 years she had been wanting to break up for a long time but didn't want to throw away the past 3 years of her life. It is hard to start a new relationship and sometimes girls stay in relationships and go back to them because it is safe and comfortable. If she meets someone new she'll probably leave you for him because she'll no longer need that safety net that you provided for her. Another thing is that it has been proven that when you break up as time goes by you forget all the bad things about your relationship, one month is a very typical amount of time for this to happen and have the person suddenly feel like they made a mistake and want the other person back. This is short lived though as soon as the relationship starts again they remember all the reasons for the original breakup. Save yourself from a second breakup and let her be.
2006-10-31 19:21:40 · answer #2 · answered by D P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it means she dump u and had some one else and when she find out that the other person wasnt what she liked she waited intill u called or text ofcourse shes not gonna do it because she knows she gonna look dumb that she dump u and then tell u that she wants u back. why else she wanted to break up all of a suddendly. im not saying believe what im saying u know ur girl better than i do but just becareful and make it work for it if she dump u
2006-10-31 19:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by jose m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have been trying to figure out women for thousands of years and visa-versa. We each (men & women) work with different brain functions.
Women grow up faster than guys, intellectually! Guys ... will always be guys! Some never grow up! Those that do have learned what some women want and adjust their perspectives. Deep down inside, they are still ... Guys!
Some (either sex) seek to change their partner. Women learn sooner that this is a No-No! Guys, eventually figure this out.
So, in short, go with your gut. If the relationship is worth saving, go for it! But never, ever try to figure out what the opposite sex is all about. It can't be done!
Oh, and in the event that you should ever do that (figure them out), you need to write a book for the rest of us!
Thanks in advance,
The Ol' Sasquatch Ã
2006-10-31 19:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ol' Sasquatch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(first of all, you are lucky she wants you back! i went to China to meet someone, the long distance relation lasted 3 years also...then she found another guy, after she made it to Canada, I was in USA waiting for her with a fiancee visa...long story...she has not talked to me since)
most women who are feminine (not the masculin ones) act impulsively on their emotions, unless they were trained to use logic. that's why women will do what their heart tells them at any given moment. it can get rather fickle sometimes. but if she loves you truly, her heart will be there for you...until another guy robs it from under your nose... or she falls for his feathered nest
2006-10-31 19:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because absence makes the heart grow fonder. After she broke up with you, she realised that you mean a lot to her but, probably thought she blew it and was afraid to call you and tell you because she thought you wouldn't want her back. When you texted her, she realised that you did want her back. I know it sounds crazy but, this actually happened to me and I did the same thing as your ex.
2006-10-31 19:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line: She met someone when ya'll were together. Broke up with you to be with him. He didn't want her. Now she wants you back. End of story. Sorry but that's one reason why she probably broke up with you so suddenly and then waited for you to call her b/c she felt guilty and stupid for leaving you for someone who didn't want her or who just wanted a hook up.
2006-10-31 19:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm wow, we r not mind readers... and unfortunately if u want an answer to this question u should ask her as soon as u and her r face to face..
but in my own opinion, some of us r just stubborn and feel like i'm not gonna make the first move if they want me then let them call me.. or could be cause she can't find anyone else yet...
ask her...
2006-10-31 19:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to Tibet and forsake all your belongings and shun civilization for the next 20 years and reflect on this!!! I doubt you will ever know!
2006-10-31 19:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jamey T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's a girl,she has the option to change her mind at a moments notice.Question is,what is your answer?Make sure you answer in the way you feel,not by what she feels.
2006-10-31 19:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋