Well, I've known my current boyfriend for two years but we've been dating for 6 months. I love him and I know he loves me. He's such a "manly" man though. He's only romantic once in awhile. We live about 2 hours away from each other so we only get to see each other every other weekend. I guess I just think it would be sweet to get calls, texts, messages for no reason...but he's not that type of guy. What should I do?
2006-10-31 11:14:53 · 9 answers · asked by sws_classic_caramel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best solution is to really be honest with him. Tell him how you feel and how much you would appreciate some of the smaller things in your relationship. Big, extravagent things are great, but it's really the little things, like the out of no where I love You's, text messages, emails, phone calls... that count when all is said and done. Explain to him that you love him, but you feel unappreciated at times because he forgets about the little things.
Just give the man a reminder; see how he reacts and then go from there.
2006-10-31 11:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reach out to him. Call him for no reason and send messages. If you start it, then he may carry it on when you miss a day. Don't make it last more than 5min if it's a text, only type about 2 or 3. Just talk to him about how you feel if it's bothering you. Don't complain about it. Do something about it. You'll feel much better if you know you gave it a try to make things seem closer and more meaningful.
2006-10-31 11:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell him that you would love to get more calls/messages/emails because it makes you feel loved! But you also need to realize that he isn't that type of guy, like you said, so if he doesn't do those things, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. You do need to accept him for who he is and expect what is realistic but you should always tell him how you're feeling. You can even approach it that way, telling him you know he isn't all that romantic but you would love to compromise somehow. :)
2006-10-31 11:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my relationship, except I live with him. Sometimes you need to step up to the plate and give him a call or tsend a txt msg. Surprise him.. He may get the clue. He may not. Some guys are not romantic at all. And sometimes they have reasons.
2006-10-31 11:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a guy like this and i told him that i understood it's not really his thing to be all sweet and mushy but that sometimes i would appreciate it. i made sure he understood that it wasn't that i was unhappy with him but that this would be an extra little something to add to my happiness with him and make me feel appreciated. he really listened and we compromised and he surprises me with little things now. it's not usually flowers or jewelry or candy or anything but i notice that he does things that he feels mean a lot, like make the bed, give me a backrub, make me dinner, etc.
2006-10-31 11:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lauryn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him about it that's what did. and just say i would like it if you showed some appreciation once in a while to show me you love me. and maybe he'll be a little more affectionate.
2006-10-31 11:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by Shakira R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell hime how you feel it MAY influence him, but don't count on it. If you love him, you might just have to deal with it. But keeping it to yourself or getting frustrated about it helps no one
2006-10-31 11:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him because it he does not appreciate u that means he does not love u
2006-10-31 11:22:29 · answer #8 · answered by dreamz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel and tell him that you would feel appreciated if he did that for you
2006-10-31 11:16:31 · answer #9 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋