I've heard people say they know after the first date. If you have some doubts after 8 months, is that bad?
Also, how do you know when you've met the one?
2006-10-31 11:05:21 · 9 answers · asked by ftz 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah... the question everyone asks... How do you know?
I asked my parents this countless times! The answer I always got....."You just know."
There's absolutely no way for you to understand until you've experienced it. It's true what they say. You just know. Some people know right away, other can be together for years before they realize it. It's different for everyone.
There's nothing wrong with having doubts.
2006-10-31 11:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attachment issues and psychological BS aside... It really is different for everyone. I've known people who "knew" literally when they saw the person for the first time...
I've also know people who were married 8 years and then one day they both knew they were actually the ones for eachother... how cool is that? heh.
The real problem is that we're human... we make mistakes... and we can often think infatuation is the same as love, and that lust is the same as love... and so on.
If you have some doubts after 8 months, you're human. If you didn't have doubts, THEN there would be something really wrong, because you'd be living in a dillusion.
Doubts give us a reason to reinforce what we believe. If you love, or loved, this person when you met... but now you doubt it... figure out why you doubt it, and then apply that to the idea that your doubt can make your love stronger by answering whatever question it is that is making you doubt. It sounds complicated, I guess... but it isn't...
If you ask the question of yourself, and you can't come up with a good answer, then maybe your doubts were founded, and it IS time to look elsewhere. But remember, it is only fair, and intelligent, to talk to your partner when you have doubts... it's hard to answer a question, after all, without all the facts.
2006-10-31 11:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by rainsinger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew it when I first met him...I was 10! I know that sounds weird but it's true. I didn't actually think I'd end up with him but I reallllly wanted to. If you don't think she's the one, then she's probably not, and it doesn't matter whether or not it's been 8 months or 8 minutes. Whatever, don't compare your situation to anyone else's. There isn't a set time that you have to find your soulmate by in a relationship, and there's nothing wrong with being in a relationship with someone you know isn't your soulmate. As long as you're happy and living in the now.
2006-10-31 11:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well to me if you like someone you should get to know stuff like what religion they is in and stuff like that. and if they has some doubts to them maybe you could tell them but that does not all ways work out. but hey if you like that person try to be friends then level up.
2006-10-31 11:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Maria H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its been 8 months, then things arent really going well. but for me, i believe that "the one" is the person you really hate. wouldnt it be funny that one day you really hate someone, then the next day youre married with kids?
2006-10-31 11:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if after 8 months you can't tell, then you should re-evaluate your relationship
2006-10-31 11:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think 8 months is a long time...and i think you'd be able to figure it out by then.
2006-10-31 11:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its a feeling --- cant explain but you do know when you experience it --- and love at first sight
2006-10-31 11:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will just feel it.. ^_^ then you will know.. ^_^
2006-10-31 11:12:55 · answer #9 · answered by sugarplumpricess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋