.......why is that ''settling'' for second best???
Does it have to be ''true love or nothing?''
What , sit at home and wait for mr right to come along , and never have a relationship up until that day?
All or nothing?
Sounds like sitting at home in dreamland to me - when i can get out there and live in reality!!!
2006-10-31 11:00:16 · 20 answers · asked by chandra 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its really up to you, if you wait for mr.right then you will have no kind of relationship experience and will be pretty naive and will proably get treated really bad because he will exploit that. so you should probably get out there in those dating waters and no everyone is not celebate in fact far from it
2006-10-31 11:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've read your so-called 'Question' 3 or is it 4 times now, and .....!
I think you are trying to make a point, but I'm unsure as to just what on earth it is!!
There is nothing 'wrong' with being 'celibate.' On the other hand, it's not possible to be infected with a Sexually Transmitted Disease** through it ...nor to become pregnant or to be abandoned as a result of it. [ **that is of course, if you are truly and completely 'Celibate.' ]
I'm not arguing for or against anything here, just pointing out what I see as some of the facts.
> Sitting at home ( as you call it ) and waiting for Mr Right, and never having a relationship up until that day - All or nothing? <
'Sitting at home waiting etc' is the negative vision choice that YOU paint, which does not have to be 'negative.' Well, it may not be obvious to you, but that is YOUR choice, the one YOU make - or don't.
On the other hand, while waiting, what could you be doing - as opposed to DOING nothing - ?
You want Mr Right to Love you, then what is there in you or about you to love? What qualities do you have that are attractive? What qualities about you that are loveable? what's desireable about you (from above whatever physical ones there may or may not be)? What is there that you could maybe add to your 'CV for Loveability'
...as it were?
I've just read it again ...and I just get a sort of Bi-Polar-ness about it!
Sorry.
Sash.
2006-10-31 13:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you sound pretty peed off. What's up? You don't have to marry your boyfriend at all. I don't think a lot of people do now a days but don't take it out on people who do decide to get married. And how are you going to meet mr right by sitting at home and waiting? Do you think i stayed at home at waited? No way, i was out having fun and i took it all as i went along. We all live in reality, well nearly all, but some of us meet our partners quicker than others.
2006-10-31 11:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you're saying - sounds like you've seen a question that I missed... I'm not celibate, but I am monogamous. Unfortunately, my boyfriend and I both have children and we don't live together. Our "adult" time is infrequent, so sometimes it feels like I'm celibate!!!
Now that I'm in this relationship, I realize that everything I had before him was a waste of time. I don't regret my marriage, because then I wouldn't have my daughter, but I wasted too many years in a loveless relationship. If my current boyfriend and I ever split up, I don't think I'll bother again because this IS true love - and worth waiting for.
When you find it, you'll know...
2006-10-31 11:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK so when mr wonderful comes along and you are with your current freak of the week what then? Trust me the time will come when you will meet a really great guy and he is going to think you have no morals. I am not saying sit at home and be bored. Go out have fun get to know people but don't jump in to the sack with everyone you meet and don't tie yourself in to a bf/gf relationship with someone you are not interested in spending your life with.
2006-10-31 11:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are out there spending time with the wrong men and the wrong people then you may miss your chance at true love. Mr.Right will come along when you are with Mr.Wrong.
I'm not saying just stay home, but I found I was only wasting my time being with people I didnt truly love or care about 110%, and wasting thier time too.
Dreamland is somewhere alot of people live.
2006-10-31 11:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chose not to settle. I'm not going to lower my standards just so I can be in a relationship. That's just being addicted to the idea of love. And because I never lowered my standards, I found a worthwhile man who not only met my expectations, but exceeded them. I just find it pointless to be in a relationship with a man when I know it's not going to go anywhere. Why put myself through that and waste my time? I'd rather enjoy being single than hop from man to man just to fill in the time.
2006-10-31 11:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mary K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should strive for someone who matches you on several levels.....not "settle". why regret a relationship, or "give it away" for someone you don't truly care about?
Go out and have fun, yes....but don't lead a guy on...if you have no intentions of having a relationship, make sure he knows that before you put out....too much scary stuff out there to catch and spread around....
2006-10-31 11:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by suziq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and let live springs to mind.
You should switch your PC off and get on with what you want to do I reckon.
It doesn't have to be true love or nothing. Nothing wrong with enjoying yourself however it suits you, just try not to trample on others feelings - and that ain't easy!
2006-10-31 11:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lost soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The concept of "true love" is way overblown in our society. That's why the divorce rate is so high....unreasonable expectations we put on each other.
Not to sound gay or anything, but LOVE is not something the universe is required to provide you, it's something you are required to provide others. Then you get it back.
2006-10-31 11:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by lucyanddesi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋