How do I get over the death of my boyfriend?

Question

5 months ago I lost my boyfriend. He died in a car crash very violently and I feel so guilty because we was supposed to met back up after I did some errends. We never got that chance. so want to be with him, not him here becasue this world is so heartless. He was and always will be my everything! Everyone keeps telling I need to get myself together or I'm going to drive myself crazy, but how do I do this when I hate the fact that I wake up every morning without him? I don't even think about sucide because I wouldn't want my mother to go through what his mother did. What am I to do? My life seems hopeless without him and I feel so empty and feeld with darkness.

Answer 1

Have you tried seeing a psychologist? I think that sometimes talking to someone who his not partial to you can help. You can say anything to them and tell them exactly how you feel without being scared of judgement. I went to one a few times and she really helped me turn my life around. I am really sorry to hear what happened to your boyfriend. I cant imagine the pain you are feeling. But, just remember that he loved you and he will always be with you in spirit. Hope you feel better soon!

Answer 2

I am very sorry for your loss. I know a little about it. My husband of 5 years was killed in a hunting accident and I went from having a great relationship to being alone and very very sad. It takes time to heal the hurt you feel but the heart is very resilient and you will survive this tragedy. We have to remember that even though it feels like we have an empty space inside, we are actually still whole, but hurting. Our relationships do not define us. We can survive great hardship and move on to be better people. Grief counseling is something you need to look into. You can talk with others are going through similar situations. Talking with someone who understands is a great help.You will be okay. Give it some time. I will pray for you.

Answer 3

Remember: your boyfriend is with God now and is in a better place. He loved you to the end and wouldn't want you to be sad. This world has any problems, but think of the good things and find hope in them. Remember all the good times with him and appreciate you had the time that you did. Turn to God or someone you trust- they will help you through it. I always thought that the best rainbows come after stoms, so this is a chance for you to become stronger and learn more about the world. Always know that it will all work out in the end.

Answer 4

Honey i am so sorry you lost your boyfriend that is terrible. *hugs*
but no one can ask you to be okay after something like that happens it will take time. Im glad youve decided that suicide isnt a good idea because I'm sure your bf wouldnt want you to do that. Just go about life as best you can and eventually it wont hurt as much that pain will always be there but you will feel better soon. God bless and I hope you do ok in the days, weeks, months, years to come
Good luck hun

Answer 5

It is hard but as everybody has told u, u need to put urself together and I dont know if u have heard about findying something that in ur life is worth it... i know ur boyfriend was important but there must be something that keeps u going... and when u find that try to put all ur attention on that... try to do a lot of activities to keep ur mind out of thinking about ur boyfriend cause he knows that u r strong enough... and hes watching over u and i guess that the last thing he would ever want is watching u driving urself crazy... so good luck!
and smile, u never know who can fall in love with it

Answer 6

Time sweetheart, time will help you through this. You will probably never get over it. What you will do, with time, is find ways to live with it. You will realize that while you are sad and hurting, so is he. But when you are happy and feeling very alive, he will be happy and will be living again in you. It may be difficult for you to believe but there is someone else out there for you. Your boyfriend loved you and would not leave you alone. He knows there is someone looking for you and he wants to see you happy.

So, live a little, Find joy and happiness in the time you had together. If you do that, then he still exists to the world. We do not cease to exist when we die except when there is no sign of our passing and no one remembers us. As long as you remember then he is.

Sincerely,
Terry

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Answer 7

I sympathize with your loss, I wish I could make your pain go away, I heard my teacher say that one of the best ways to get over a situation is to remain still, and eventually it will move away on its own, maybe you should think of him more because he's alive yet our physical eye can't see him , he will live on through our lives, you have a story to tell, your life was spared because u were suppose to be together but fate appeared. In life be greatful, it is but a gift. This too shall pass and you will be so strong and passionate about Life and Love.

Answer 8

Cold hard fact of life: people die. Sometimes not when we want, but we do. It's unavoidable. And when someone close dies, there's not a whole lot that can be done, except to move on. You don't say how old you are, but I'm assuming you're a sight younger than me. I've lost loved ones. It was hard. But I'm still here, because life would still go on, regardless. Yours will, too. So there's only three things you can do: get a grip, get over it, and move on.

Answer 9

Why push your self to get over it when it's still so fresh? Accept the fact that it is going to take time to heal.
Mourn his death as long as you need. There is no rush is getting back to where it was.
It's perfectly normal to mourn for months and months and you have the right to any amount of time you need.

Answer 10

Something like that, you may never get over, but over time it will get better. Maybe get a puppy, or start up in some sports, yoga maybe to occupy your time and keep your mind off the negative....I'm so sorry you are going through this, I couldn't imagine....