Ok, I met a girl about a month and a half ago, and October 30th would have been our 1 month mark. It was going fantastic for about 3 weeks, then I noticed that she seemed to be a little less excited when I was around. I just thought she was losing the hotts for me and that we were jsut settling into the relationship even though I was still crazy about her. If she was around when my guy friends were around she was the one who got all my attention. Sorry for being crude, but the correct word for me would have been "*****-whipped" But this trait of mine wore on her, she said I was "clingy" and she just didn't like that. She also got very hyper when she was around her friends, and I would say "calm down" which kept her from being herself(which I only did because I would get no attention) So at 3 weeks and 5 days she broke up with me. I would change all that she didn't like, but I need to get her to like me again so I can ask her out once more. I'm just not done with her yet.
2006-10-31 10:48:45 · 10 answers · asked by Brian W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorta in the same situation But.. My bf and I have been together over 2 years. I think It is because we try to hard. That is what he tells me. I try way yo hard to get him to notice me. In fact he really does but I am so wound up about how i feel I don't ever see it. I have stepped back gave him his space and watched him. I notice he calls me beautiful and we are doing really great. You cant expect to much out of people and I think that is what we want. So maybe give her some space... Let her be her self because no one likes limitations expecally if you two aren't married. But let her know you really care. That is what I do and My Bf and I are still going strong. 2 and a half years later
2006-10-31 11:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by cassie_1400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU should not change for her, you are the one person you can depend on and you should be true to yourself. If you get in the wrong person you can end up giving more and more of your personality away until you don't even recognize yourself. All relationships require sacrifice, everyone has to compromise but when you are deleting your personality just to keep someone around, there is something very wrong. If you want to give her something, give her space. If you want to ask her out again after some time has passed and you resume your relationship, continue to give her space. Let her hang out with her friends without you so she can be hyper and girlie and you don't have to feel ignored. Give her space so she can think about what an awesome person you are and how she misses you. Someone cannot miss you if you are always in their face.
2006-10-31 11:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is done with you, then you really have no options.
Odds are she is at an age where she is just discovering who she is and what she wants. She does not want to be held down or restricted by a boy in her life.
If you truly want to be with her, don't change. That is never good. You should be 110% free to be yourself and dow hat comes naturally as should she.
Just relax, spend time being with her and also being with friends. Don't crowd her. When she see's you can live w/o her and are confident and having fun she will be attracted to that. Be in her life, be a good friend to her, get to know what is on her heart. Once youdevelop a strong trusting friendship then maybe she will want more down the line. For now, don't push her or you will lose her.
2006-10-31 10:52:50 · answer #3 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be so clingy. Not all girls really like that. And dont tell her to calm down when shes with her friends, those are her FRIENDS!!!! Its okay to pay attention to her, just not TOO much
2006-10-31 10:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an insecure person (which sounds like it from your question) exactly how are you going to change overnight for this girl? She broke up with you because she felt smothered and because she couldn't be herself around you. Chalk it up to experience and learn for the next time.
2006-10-31 10:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a shame we live in a world where needy and clingy aren't attractive qualities. by the way, did you figure out the exact number of hours and minutes you were a couple?
2006-10-31 10:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off you mostlikely scared the crap out of her by talking about how long you have been together, slow down, grow up and move on
2006-10-31 10:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by nicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But she seems to be done w/ you....Let it go...When a girl says no, it means no....
2006-10-31 10:51:33 · answer #8 · answered by JennyAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to understand that she is done with you
2006-10-31 10:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SURE WHY NOT
2006-10-31 10:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by HOT MAMI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋