2006-10-31 10:41:00 · 60 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Donate to charity
2006-10-31 10:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Alicat 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
As it's a wedding they'll probably already be inundated with flowers and if they are heading off on a honeymoon they won't really get a chance to enjoy the bouquet.
But I appreciate that it seems wierd to go to an event like that without some sort of gesture or token for the bride and groom. There are a lot of websites which offer "ethical gifts" - you could consider buying them an virtual gift which will actually be given to a charitable cause on the bride and groom's behalf.
It works as follows: You pay for the gift (for example £24 buys 16 ducks, or £60 buys a herd of goats) and you will receive something through the post detailling what you have bought and who it will benefit. This virtual gift is then given to the bride or groom who see that a gesture has been made without actually being given a physical present. (This way you get to do two good deeds at once!)
See the link below (Present Aid) for a better explanation of how it all works and what kind of gifts you can buy...there are lots of similar sites out there so you can shop about.
2006-10-31 11:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Les 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a request almost always means the couple would prefer cash because they don't need a lot of stuff but it is considered rude to ask for money. So, cash or a gift certificate will probably be the most appreciated. A bouquet is probably not a great idea because even if they aren't leaving on a honeymoon, the first week or so after the wedding will be so busy they won;t have time to enjoy it before it dies off.
2006-11-01 08:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a couple requests 'no gifts; it usually is an indication that they would prefer cash gifts, most likely to off set the cost of the wedding.
A bouquet would be fine, it is still however a gift. If you really want to give them what they want opt for a $20 rather than flowers.
2006-10-31 10:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think a bouquet would be gilding the lily - surely the bride will have carefully chosen her bouquet for her wedding and how can she walk down the aisle with two?
I also consider money to be a gift; if they say no gifts it means they don't want anything to be given in person to them, this includes cash, gift vouchers, flowers etc.
If you want to give them anything, buy them a tree in the local forest, sponser an animal in the local zoo, subscribe to a charity in their name or something similar. I'm sure they'd appreciate it.
2006-10-31 11:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by fidget 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may have requested no gifts because they have lived together and have everything they need,that doesnt mean you dont take anything.
Do you know a close relative of theyres to ask if they mean no gifts at all or they would like vouchers or cash.
I have been to quite a few weddings where they didnt want gifts,but were very pleased with cash or gift vouchers they could spend as they wished.
2006-10-31 10:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Pat R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the request was explicit in giving no gifts, then you bringing a gift is being rude and going against their wishes. If the invite did not say anything to that degree, and there was no registry card in the invite, then a gift of money would be the intended gift.
A card with your congratulations is fine, and if you feel compelled to "gift", place a note in the card showing a donation made in their names.
Sometimes a couple only wants their family and friends to join in their celebration without the feeling that everyone needs to bestow gifts on them. You could embarrass other guests who did not bring anything due to the couple's request.
2006-10-31 10:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If they specifically say no gifts then NO GIFT!!
If you want to treat them to something anyway may I suggest a meal out, a day at a health club, a massage - or anything else which will help the couple to relax before the big day. They will apreciate the time out from all the planning and you will still have honoured their request.
2006-11-01 03:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by geegee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who request no gifts would like to receive cash or you can include a gift card in a wedding card. If you want to give them something more personal, you can include a gift cert for a nice resturant. A bouquet of flowers is also a nice sediment.
2006-10-31 10:48:48 · answer #9 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Besides a card and/or money you can always but a gift for their home. You can get them an appliance you think that they do not have, such as a Cappuccino maker, a crock pot, aroma therapy products to name a few. Flowers are better to give at the Rehearsal Dinner and Bridal Shower.
2006-10-31 17:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by nygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a beautiful card, perhaps have it made. Cards are treasured too, sometimes more than gifts, especially if some thought has gone into it. There are a lot of people who make cards now. Find someone and say you want something special.
2006-10-31 11:13:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋