I was kind of disapointed because I made sure they had a perfect xmas I bought them a xmas tree. I made sure everyone had at least 5-6 presents. he has 3 sisters a niece. his mom and dad and his sisters boyfriend. I even bought him something even though he barely even spoke.
And I didnt get anything for xmas for them. I mean the presents were sitting under the tree for awhole month. gave them enough time. Theyre selfish. I live in the house hold and it's like whatever now. I spent over $1500 last xmas I really went over board i thought they deserved it. but at the end I I was really disapointed. I mean I would have been happy with a card. just for the thought you know. I saw the looks on their faces and they were embarrassed. And I just had this fake grin on my face knowing that nobody got me anything. it's been awkard in the household ever since.
Am I being way too nice?? Because i'm not a selfish person!
But I'm honestly thinking about NOT getting anything 4 them for this xmas.
2006-10-31 10:38:55 · 18 answers · asked by blah blah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no but we are all adults in the household. all in our 20's. yeah it's all about givign and not receiving. But they feel embarrassed ever since that day because they didnt get me anything. so like I dont want to get them anything this year and get the same reacting and they are going to feel guilty you get what im saying.
2006-10-31 10:46:08 · update #1
I've lived his familly for 2 years now. it's not about the money trust me. hahahaha
I just do so much and nobody says thank you nor talk to me like I bought them those presents to prove something. and it's almost xmas again....still barely even talking!
2006-10-31 10:48:42 · update #2
I dont know so I like walk around with this guilt like...why did i buy them all this stuff.
They dont even want to communicate with me. I just hate the awardness im sooo stuck! I DO WANT TO BUY THEM STUFF THIS YEAR! maybe 1 small thing will do.
2006-10-31 10:51:32 · update #3
hey Sheeny I pay bills in the house. we got along just fine before last xmas when I bought them all the presents.
Im not dumb alright. so if you want to be rude and say that maybe they dont want me in the household. you don't even know the story ok i've been in this familly for 10 years so ask before you talk **** about them there my familly. we live in a big house. we get along just fine. the thing that bugs me is that we dont talk as much as we used to. I just want to break the ice and not them feel uncomfortable for not getting me anything last xmas.
2006-10-31 11:40:33 · update #4
WOW!!
You say you live in their household? That money probably would have been better spent paying rent on your own apartment. That is probably what some of them were thinking too.
I wouldn't do that again this year.
2006-10-31 10:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
A boyfriend who doesn't speak to you? How lame. As for the rest of them they sure let you know how they feel about you. Take your money and get your own place. They obviously don't appreciate you. If the presents you got for them sat under the tree (your tree!) for a month and there is nothing for you than that's a real kick in the butt. Seems like they never had any intentions toward you. And don't buy into this crap about "it's all about giving and not receiving". If that was true than you would have "received" as well as "gave". Not even a card no less. Bunch of bogus cheap skate misers. Talk about Scrooge! I don't blame you for feeling hurt. Maybe you did go a little overboard. Never the less your heart and kindness were in the right place. You showed the true meaning of the holiday. If you feel like getting them something this year get them a twenty dollar gift card from the subway sandwich shop with a card that says " EAT FRESH".
As for the upcoming new year it may be time for you to make a fresh start and get away from this close knit ill mannered pack. The only thing it seems is that you are an outsider on the outside looking in and it's not likely to change. For what it's worth I wish all the best for you this year. I would thank my lucky stars and be infinitely grateful to have someone like you around. Not only for the holidays but for the whole year too!
2006-10-31 22:12:34 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
When you give gifts, don't expect anything in return, or else you'll just be disappointed. You give not to receive.
Secondly, a lot of people feel uncomfortable when you give them expensive gifts because either a) they can't afford it themselves, and/or b) they feel they need to reciprocate that gift in value. I understand a card might have been nice, but sometimes, people aren't just thoughtful enough.
I think you shouldn't be bitter about this whole thing because it certainly is a bit juvenile to just pull your presents away because they didn't think about you. Maybe you can give them something simpler this year, like a card and a small present for the family. Give something you can afford, and not feel bad about even if you don't receive anything in return. I think you expected a bit too much from last year.
Christmas isn't all about presents. It's about spending and enjoying time with your family.
2006-10-31 12:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all it seems to me that you are trying to win their approval and yoour boyfriend's too by buying gifts for his family. They don't respect you that's why they are treating you this way. I would have taken that $1500 and got a place of my own. Second, you should never give gifts expecting anything in return. You are doing TOO much. It's okay to be nice to people but you went overboard. People can sense when you're trying to impress them. If they meant you any good they would have told you that they couldn't accept the gifts or went out and bought you something the day after Christmas. Furthermore, your boyfriend should have said somnething to them about their actions. Don't get them anything this year and move out. He will always be "just" your boyfriend if you don't give him some space to miss you. You have to leave something to the imagination. Make him miss you and want you more. Get yourself the best Christmas gift ever.... Move!
2006-10-31 13:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did a very generous thing by giving them all those presents. Personally, I would get them a present this year, but, don't expect anything in return. They may not have as much money as you and plus its about the joy of giving, not receiving. Good luck! and an early Merry Christmas!
2006-10-31 10:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing when i was first going out with my man. I didn't get anything from the family. I only got little things last year but again they didn't bother.. they gave to my man and said oh yeah this is for both of you. Due to stress and negative actions on the part of his family I am not buying anyone anything for Christmas this year. Why bother as they haven't bothered with me? I know I love Christmas and bought gifts to share and make it nice but last Christmas my Mom's Mom died and they didn't even bother to say a word to me about it . So I would say don't give a lot or even a little. Good Luck with your decision!
2006-11-01 01:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
perhaps a extra helpful question could be, what 'no longer' to purchase him, as he will in all probability open it up close on your mom and dad.. ok, if I have been you, i might in all probability purchase him some thing he used to love as a new child (if he gets to spend the christmas which incorporate your mom and dad i think you do know him incredibly a lot). for occasion my boyfriend used to love the GI Joe figures and Lego. yet another thought could be a watch fastened, it incredibly is a classical, in spite of the indisputable fact that it incredibly is genuine that maximum adult men do like watches. in case you have the opt to make your mom and dad pleased with you having chosen this guy, you additionally can purchase him some thing pertaining to his skills. a sequence of oil paints for a painter, for occasion.
2016-10-21 01:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course im sure you know that xmas isnt about recieving gifts,,,its about being with the people you love and giving.
But i do think you went way over board to impress them,,,and it got you nowhere. Im also a giving person but if i didnt recieve gifts then it wouldnt bother me....the thing that makes me happy is seeing others expressions when they arre opening thier gifts. Its all about family hon,,so be happy with that....at least you got people who love you.
2006-10-31 10:45:04 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whew! I can't relate to this at all. I have 5 kids and I don't spend $1500. Hope you all can talk about this and come to some kind of understanding.
2006-10-31 12:01:44 · answer #9 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Next time bake them a cake
2006-10-31 12:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋