I Been in this relationship for about 5yrs and she say that she love me but something inside me saying something else so can you help me out with this?
2006-10-31 10:25:45 · 16 answers · asked by lowkey_basher 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don't know.
2006-10-31 10:27:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts after 5yrs. then trust your gut feeling. Why is it not moving forward or what is the problem? Things do cool down as time goes on but you should know. Maybe you need to light the fires a little and spend more quality time together, maybe she needs some romance. Is she in her 40's? If so it could be the hormones and believe me it's nothing to joke about. They can turn a sweet person into a demon, I mean it. That's when you need to take time for her, set aside date night and romance her. You need to foeplay just for her, very gently, not like rubbing down a horse, be gentle and playful and tender...really tender, certain parts get fragile as we get older ya know? Then have lubricant closeby and ask her what feels good and what she likes and doesn't like. Spend the night doing nothing but waiting on her. Run her a bath, change the linen, light a candle, put the music on, make it special and cozy and she'll come around. Maybe she needs to know she's still attractive and wanted and loved. Good luck.
2006-10-31 18:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really loves you you will know it. Love is an awesome feeling that cant be explained. You can tell by someones kiss, like no other. The way she looks at you, when someone truley loves you they respect and adore you. They would never want you to feel sad, lonely or unhappy for one minute. Your life will not be the same if you loose a true love. No relationship will have compared. Do you feel this from her?
2006-10-31 18:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by tender_1119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behaviour is usually a tell tale sign. Saying you love someone is easy. Behaving like a commited lover isn't. Your gut feeling might not necessarily be about you not loving him. Maybe you think you don't love him because someting inside you is doubtful of your ability to commit. Maybe your insecure about something. I would do some inner seaching before getting rid of him. Unless you can prove he's done something worth dumping him over.
2006-10-31 18:29:58 · answer #4 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is...no one knows if it's true or not unless there are some people who can read their mind. Oh yeah...maybe you could put her on lie detector but I don't think she'll feel so great about doing it because she might feel you are doubting her love.
Anyways, if you are not sure about it...talk to her about it. If you've been with her for that long, she's your best friend already. Who knows, you might find the answer you look for within her. I hope you the best!
2006-10-31 18:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by Este 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay they are giving u all these funny reasons but the truth is you can feel it.The person puts u first.Always wants you to be happy and wants to be with you.They have your best interest at heart.Plus they will do anything for you in reason.That is when u know they love you.
2006-10-31 18:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that by the time you asked this question you might already know. The bottom line is to follow your heart and nothing else
2006-10-31 18:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Randall L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U dont know..u can only go on what she is telling you..u should know in ur heart if its true..your going out for 5 yrs so you should know..dont waste time with her if you dont think she means it or if you dont have the same feelings
2006-10-31 18:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by anniemariee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words..... do you know how many people say they love you but dont.
Love is an action word- Love is service, sacrifice, respect, honor, kindness..
Its in the doing that matters, not the words.....
2006-10-31 18:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by SunValleyLife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eye contact. Also compare it with other situations when you know she is being sincere. Watch how she gives her opinion about something she really cares about.
2006-10-31 18:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to know. you been in a relationship for 5 years? why arent you guys married? if she loves you she will say yes
2006-10-31 18:28:21 · answer #11 · answered by quizqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋