is my boyfriend bisexual? how can I find out forsure?

Question

I recently asked my boyfriend if he had slep with another man he refused to awnser the question! I asked him latter if he thougt it was cheating to sleep with a man he said he wouldnt awnser the question! I told him latter i knew he had slept with a man because he didnt deny it I was right! I latter asked him if he was molested as a child he said no! I know sevral of my friends who have sexual contact with men even though they are involved with women! knowing this makes me very parinoied! I belive strongly that once a man engages in this behind her back behavior it will continue! I would feel alot better about it if he were upfront about his sexualtiy with me! I myself am bisexual so it wouldnt be a prolblem. cheating is alwas a problem however and i dont think i want to compeet with other men! how can i find out for cirtan if he is like this? Or if he just tried it once? I dont understand y all he will say is this is somthing guys dont like to talk about

Answer 1

Hard to say, he will have to come forward and tell you himself because he is the only one that knows for sure. Try not attacking him with questions, why don't you instead open your heart to him and in very good terms after dinner when you both are cool explain to him why you are questioning him, about your fears if he were to be bisexual, etc.

Do everything calm and don't expect him to talk to you, instead talk to him about what you tell us here, that you just want it to be upfront and you don't have a problem with it. Don't ask questions, just express your fears and feelings I find men don't respond very well to questioning, they shut down and go away.

Answer 2

Those folks who have already answered that they believe he is bi are entitled to their opinions. Roger, however, is wrong, I'm afraid. Many young men and women in high school and college try all kinds of things, including sex with the same gender. Once means nothing. Bi-sexuals have the unique option of being able to love (and lust) after whomever they will - including being able to perform during a sexual encounter.

The questions you presented to him (as you listed them above) sound very intimidating and persecuting. Perhaps you might mention (just once and then drop the subject) that you are open to exploring the sexual relationship between you two. Avoid offering any explanation, just make that comment and walk away - literally, walk away.

Regardless of what you do or don't do, remember this: you have already presented your questions. Whether they were just curiosity or concerns, you have laid them on the table. If you want to keep him, you might let him answer you in time. You can enforce this by avoiding sex with him until you have an answer, but try not to tell him why you're not having sex. If he pressures you, let him know you need some more information about him before you feel safe again with him in bed. Here's a hint, if he gets mad, he has secrets, and it sounds like you don't need any more baggage in your life.

Answer 3

If you are jumping on his back about it, he probably doesn't feel too at ease sharing with you. Back off, give him space, and don't push things. He will tell you if and when he is ready, should he have anything to tell you at all.
The best way to get someone to open up to you is to make yourself open first, FYI.

Answer 4

dude is gay, anyone who has "relations" with another man is gay. period. but with you being gay too..why would it hurt. Your only problem is aids. gay men spread that like crazy. but, if you are a girl and he is a guy, why not just be boyfriend and girlfriend in a straight relationship. yall are crazy. I don't hate gay people either, they make me laugh. good luck

Answer 5

There is no "try it once"...He just is.
Find someone that will treat you as you deserve.

Answer 6

maybe he
is and its great that u dont have a
problem with him bein bysexual!

Answer 7

yes he is