I am so heartbroken. My love whom I trust and given all my heart and everything to just hurt me like no one has ever before. He kissed another girl--cheated. We were together for 4 years. We were so in love. How could he do this? It has only been a week that we broke up and its so so hard to let go. I mean we were together for 4 years. We are broken up but we cant stop talking to each other still because were are so used to each other's company. He feels guilty and he keeps saying sorry but he doesnt want to be together. But then he calls me and asks to see me but in the end, were still broken up. I said I forgive him and lets give it another try. We all make mistakes. But he doesnt want to be gf and bf. My friends says I need to be stronger and teach him a lesson & stop talking to him for a least a day cuz its only giving me false hope to be together again & its giving him the feeling that I am ok w/it. But its so difficult. How do i let go. He was my love and I was his.
2006-10-31 10:13:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Give yourself time. Because it takes time to heal.
2. Be strong and stay away from him. He is no longer a part of your life, and is now affects you negatively by having too much power over you: You are now begging to get back together with him, even though he cheated. You are no longer your own person and you need to stop.
3. Start seeing other people. Both friends and guys even if you don't want to. Cutting yourself off from others will keep your mind stuck on thoughts of him. The more people you go out with (casual dating of course at this stage) the less you will think about him, and the more chances you will meet someone new and good.
2006-10-31 10:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lyon D. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your friends. But go all the way. Sorry he cheated, you forgive him and let him have the milk and not buy the cow he will use you. don't let it happen. You are a good person and don't deserve this, just thankfully you aren't pregnant or have childrena and can go out and start over without all the responsibility. I say get your chin up, get out there and go out with guys he knows, just for the sake of getting out. That will do him some good. Get out of the house and socialize with your friends and meet other people and let him see you out. He isn't worth the dirt on your feet...he thinks he can do this and stay out there and come to you and have his cake and eat it too. It doesn't work that way. It's got to be you and noone else or let him go . don't talk to him. He may miss you and stay away for weeks. He may see then. Good luck.
2006-10-31 10:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry this happened to you. It must hurt really bad.
It's unreasonable to say 'drop him' or 'get over it'. You two were together for so long and now he's betrayed your trust.
It's perfectly normal to love him and be sad without him. It's also normal to feel bad about yourself to be rejected.
What you need is to spend time with your friends and family. Talk to them about your pain if you need to. If I were in your position, I certainly would! The main thing right now is that you feel good about yourself and that people validate your feelings - which I mean make you feel that your feelings are important.
Don't even think about what's going to happen in the future. Just think about right now. You are injured and what I'm suggesting is "emotional first aid".
If you get the support you need from the important people in your life then you'll get better over time. That's for certain. By the way, you might want to talk to your mother about this. Believe it or not she'll want to support you and make you feel better. :)
I hope you 'get well' soon. :)
2006-10-31 10:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry about this....im going thru this its sad.4 years u 2 r use to eachother.it will b hard but u will b ok as i am.memories is what is hard pictures.songs,family friends u made together.it willb hardi must say but u nee dto be with friends and family and mabey even go out .i couldnt eat or sleep.it sbeenover a month for me n my ex imstillheartbroken but immeeting people and datin that was my onlyway out .another guy will replace him and make u think better and make u feel special.talk talk talk about ur feelins to whomeever.it will set u free.i know it hurts burning in stomach.cant sleep or eat.constantly thinkin what u can do.dont call him.let him come to u if its meant to be
2006-10-31 12:20:53 · answer #4 · answered by cbutterflyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 07:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh I am so sorry! I think your friends are right. I think that if you want to have a future relationship with this man you should stop talking to him because you will soon began to feel like a best friend and not a gf like you want. Sometimes guys feel they must go out and explore but if you love him let him go and see if he comes back oneday.
2006-10-31 10:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by â?¥ Pawya! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont get over someone overnight...but sounds like he's been 'getting over you' since he strayed for a kiss with someone else.
So, maybe you should put away reminders of him and dont sit by phone. One day isnt enough...let him stew and think about what he wants for at least a week or two. But, you all sound young so maybe you should just concentrate on studies and leave him be for awhile. Take care. Peace.
2006-10-31 10:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely stop speaking to him every day. Find something to occupy your time -- go out with your girlfriends, and don't be so available to him. When you do speak to him, be cheerful and upbeat, not sad. If you stop acting as though you are "needy" it will likely make him wonder what's up and he may have a change of heart. If not, do not despair ... there are many other fish in the sea!
2006-10-31 10:17:47 · answer #8 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I'm so sorry! He was very insensitive about your feelings, and that's so sad. How could he do that to you? You will know when you're ready to date again, but for now, stick with your friends. They are the most important things during a time like this.
2006-10-31 10:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh,but listen to your friend sometimes they know what's best. You need to stop talking to himand gather you thought. Think hard if you wnat to give him another try, but consider this, 'you have told him to go bakc out with you and he won't,' what does that tell you, it tells me that he doesn't know what he wants and wants you to figure it out for him. Stop talking to himm for a couple of days and see is he talks to you when you don't speak to him. If he does than he still misses you, but if he doesn't ask you back out, it just means he is over you and wnats to move on, but he still wants to be you friend.
2006-10-31 10:19:57 · answer #10 · answered by lilipefer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋