Any little negative comment towards me puts me down. I realize this is my weakness and want to change. Any tips?
2006-10-31 10:13:09 · 11 answers · asked by Joy 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Usually when criticism effects you so negatively it can be traced to a low self-esteem. I love how you worded this...you realize its your weakness...so many people would blame others.
Find some things you ARE good at and spend your time doing them or improving skills you are proud of. Take a college class if you are old enough.
When someone says something negative, try to seperate whether its personal (negative about you) or just negative in general. A lot of people are just flat out negative and do not realize how they sound to others.
Do not feel too awful about being sensitive. The world needs more sensitive people...so try turning it to you advantage by developing empathy for others and being sensitive to their needs.
2006-10-31 10:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Stop Being So Sensitive
2016-12-26 18:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm quite sensitive, but I find for me the most helpful thing in this situation is to try & have a sense of humour about people's opinions. Try not to take their opinion so seriously. Is their word gospel? What makes them judge over you? Besides which, as you say maybe also you 'need to toughen up' a little. On second thoughts, I agree with Tongue in cheek regarding 'toughening up'. I don't think it really works for me this 'toughening up' business! Good luck
2016-03-19 02:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to become more confident. Don't believe senseless negative comments. Only take constructive criticism as something you should hold dear to your heat. Your sensitive nature is a good thing. That means that you will be careful with what you say to others and how you treat others. That is a characteristic of someone who is a good person. You must start everyday saying to yourself "I am worthy of good things", "I am a strong person who deserves respect" If you can don't respond the same way, eventually those people will stop. You may need to do some leadership bulding activities to improve on your spirit. I've been there, take chances and make changes in your life that put you in a better position. Things will get better and you WILL get stronger!!!!! I GURANTEE IT!!!
2006-10-31 12:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Christopher G 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself always when someone says something you don't like.
WHO ARE He OR she TO TALK?
IF you will change every single thing that people dont like in you
then there will no be you any more. YOU WILL BE they.
2006-10-31 10:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by daf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I used to be like this. Ask yourself does it really matter what they say? Does everyone say that same bad thing to you? If not then YOU know it's not true. There are many other ways of handling this other than to take the insults.
Have you heard the saying that people can't hurt you without your permission.?
So don't take the comment on board. You see when you worry over things people say YOU are the only allowing it into your head.
Could it be that the person who makes a bad comment is just not a very nice person? I think that would be a better explanation.
You see, maybe they had a bad day, maybe they like to bully, maybe they get kicks out of hurting you, maybe they do it 'cos it makes them feel better, maybe they do it 'cos they're plain immature, or insensitive.
So try not to take these things to heart...turn it around and place the blame back onto the person who makes you feel bad.
Don't waste your precious sensitivity on them. Sensitivity has lots of advantages in that it allows you to be a more compassionate and caring human being so value it.
If the negative comment is valid take it as something that may help you to see something you didn't realize before.
Hope this helps.
2006-10-31 10:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
just say thank you no matter what people say...negative or positive sometimes its hard for us to accept negative comments but if told to you in a good manner what do you care...and remember even if told to you meanly saying thank you will really make the person saying those things think...
2006-10-31 10:20:00 · answer #7 · answered by samshel1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Something chemically is a little out of balance. I would recommend a visit with a psychiatrist to talk and then let him do tests and see if you need anti-depressant. Yes - that is what you are talking about when you mean abnormal sensitivity. It is nothing to be ashamed of and you are wise to seek advice and help. Just remember - that if they can find a pill that makes you OK - that never means you are "cured" and can stop taking it. Stop and the problems comes back. If the doctor wants you to stop - most of the time they want a statistic that says "cured" and are not concerned with your health and well being. The government and insurance companies require so many "cured" to not cured so you have to be demanding and take charge to ensure your health and legal rights.
2006-10-31 10:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 8⤋
Are you perfect or Do you think you are/must be perfect?
if your answer is YES, you better remind yourself that nobody is perfect and it is true for you.
love yourself with all your deficiencies and let others do the same.
2006-10-31 10:43:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ormoz 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋
That is like trying to change my gender. It is in your DNA. Cant change, wont change, try to cope. Know that the reason people put other people down, is because they dont feel secure about there life. It turns everybodies attention to somebody else so they dont half to deal with there problems.
2006-10-31 10:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 7⤋