I have know this girl for 5 years, recently I started dating her, we have a very special connection (we both feel it, she told me) She is also dating this other guy that she meet before me, that she really doesn't like too much. But, they were dating first. I told her at dinner the other night how much I cared for her and my feelings towards her (very hard for me to do, to put myself out there like that). Well she said she feels the same, but she needs some time to figure things out, because she already is dating this guy. But she still wants to see me while she figures it out. Should I see her again soon ? Should I try to win her over ? ..... Or, should I play it cool ? and let her contact me (not what I want, because I am nervous and waiting is making me crazy...haha) ? How long should I wait to call her ?
2006-10-31 10:11:03 · 11 answers · asked by Richard J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave her alone until she decides what she is doing -- how would you like to be the other guy and finding out she has been seeing someone else??
2006-10-31 10:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, back off before you get more involved. She does not know what she wants and that makes it very difficult for everyone involved. There is obviously something about the other guy that interests her at this point. Just cool down and give her space. I know that it is hard because you feel a connection, but at this point her feelings may not be credible. If she doesn't call you or "choose" you, don't be bummed! You deserve a person who will want you completely without any doubt!
2006-10-31 18:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should play it cool....sounds to me like shes playing you and him. Tell her she needs to make a decision or you arent going to wait for her. Personally if that was me i wouldnt even be dating someone who had someone else already. But if thats what you want to do then go ahead. I just dont think you should just sit around and wait for her to make up her mind. Date others like she is doing. Who knows she might really like the other guy too. Its really simple,,if you dont like someone then end it. I dont think she really knows who she wants yet. ...and is holding on to you just in case....You need not contact her until she figures out if she really wants to be with you or not.
2006-10-31 18:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her. Leaving too much time between contacts gives the other guy time to sink his claws into her further. Make her aware that you will fight for her affection if needed. Don't push to hard or you will push her away but don't back off too much either.
2006-10-31 18:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by btij06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her.
She is obviously not respecting you by dating the other guy that she doesn't like too much....
I'd say wait at least 2 weeks before YOU do anything
2006-10-31 18:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by FeverLust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to win her over,and if you feel you are embarrassing your self then play it cool for a while and don't call her back until she calls you.
2006-10-31 18:22:06 · answer #6 · answered by B rabit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously its not worth the trouble. If she is still interested in other guys who is to say that by you winning her over, other guys could do that to you just as you did. Dumb the broad and get a single one.
2006-10-31 18:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by mrmurray_sf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All is Fair in Love&War since when did dating become so rigid..it is called dating??? she dates/ u date... picking and choosing...its called choosing... may the best guy win... :)
2006-10-31 18:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and that she needs to decide now. Don't let her waste your time. There are other fish in the sea.
2006-10-31 18:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by justforthisonepost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the best choice for her , let her go before you get really hurt.
2006-10-31 18:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋