This man that I am currently dating has alrady been married and divorced. He says that he cares about me so much that he doesnt want to have any secrts between us, so I asked him how many sexual partners he has had, and he said that he couldnt even count them, there have been so many. Should I stay with him?
2006-10-31 10:02:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is entirely up to you, and whether or not you feel comfortable with it. You know, they say that "advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn't", maybe you should look into that, there is not one person here that can tell you what you should do because we are all different and have different experiences and feelings on things.
2006-10-31 10:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by VeroGia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this all depends on how old you guys are and what you value. I mention age because if someone is say 18 and can't remember how many sexual partners they've had that could be dangerous from health perspective. However is someone is say 40 and can't count how many partners they've had it may be a little more understandable (although not exactly comforting). As for the.. if you should stay with him, on one hand he does seem to be being honest with you. I think it depends on where you are in life what what you value as importance. The fact that he has been divorced can also carry some baggage so to say. I think you should be open with him about your feelings concerning his sexual history. See how he responds and how seriously he takes you concerns and just go from there. Good luck :)
2006-10-31 10:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by ASHLEY G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? How long did his marriage last? It sounds like he doesn't stay with any one girl for very long? In which case you may only be another conquest on his belt. Once he has you, he will lose interest and his eyes and genitals will stray to other pastures. He needs to understand that when a girl gives herself to a guy, she intends the relationship to be permanent. You make him understand that he cannot have you unless he is serious about making your relationship permanent. Even then, you had better be careful because guys have been known to say whatever it takes in order to get under a girls skirt and then blow them off once they accomplish their goal.
Frankly, if I were you, I would run in the opposite direction as fast as possible.
2006-10-31 10:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he can prove to you that he's been tested and is clean. And I mean by actually showing you the test results. Then I don't see why not.
Does it really matter how many people he's been with?
Both my boyfriend and I have been with multiple partners. We're both clean, so we couldn't care less. It's all in the past.
2006-10-31 10:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already, get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
Are you comfortable knowing that he's had sex with so many people? If you can move past it then yes stay with him.
If you have doubts and dwell on his sexual past then parting might be the thing to do.
2006-10-31 10:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by isitlove20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's the only thing "wrong" with him...you care for him, he's good to you, you enjoy each other...who cares how many partners he's had? Just make sure to get tested for STDs.
2006-10-31 10:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i don't know what you're relationship is like... seems strong. But if you guys are really into eachother, should it matter how many people he have slept with? It might, but to me... I don't know, girl you're in a tough situation. Just follow your heart.
2006-10-31 10:13:49 · answer #7 · answered by Kt Press 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him if he'd mine being checked for STD's along with you. If you're timid because of the the sexual health risks.
2006-10-31 10:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by sharee704 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like man-whores, then fine. Someone with that many partners has very little regard for sex or his body-- or a woman's body, mind and soul. He places 0 value on sex.
2006-10-31 10:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you should stay with this guy. As long as he cares for you, you need to give him time to show it.
2006-10-31 10:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by mrmurray_sf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋