He's already said he loves me which I think is a little soon--anyway, he's constantly making sarcastic remarks about me, our relationship but then apologizes and says he has a prob with pushing people away. Frankly, I'm getting fed up with his childish behavior. Would you dump him or give him the benefit of the doubt?
2006-10-31 09:55:06 · 10 answers · asked by Brandy G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you told him you're tired of putting up with this type of behavior?
If you havn't.. try talking to him first.
If you have... If he truely "loves" you, he would have quit.
2006-10-31 09:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lament 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childish is the perfect word to describe him.
Now, I don't know him, so I don't really want to be such a judge of character like that, but I do want to bring this to your attention...
If u MET this guy a MONTH or so ago, and he's ALREADY said that he loves u, then that right there is a sure-fire sign that he's desperately looking for love. He WANTS to love, but I'm almost positive that he doesn't really know what love is.
Now, I am a VERY sarcastic person, but I don't get sarcastic with my man (unless we're playing, of course) and I don't joke about our relationship to the point that I have to apologize...
I've been with my boyfriend for about 7 months, and he still hasn't said "I love u" yet. I've said it...I told him for the first time about a month or so ago, but I told him because I felt that it was important that he knew. Now, don't get me wrong...I feel that this man loves me...his actions prove it, and we've talked about it before. However, he told me, "Anybody can SAY something...somebody can go around sayin' I love u all day long, but if they don't mean it, then all they're doing is repeating words..."
He was 100% correct.
My advice to u: drop him. U seem to deserve much better...a man who KNOWS who he is.
2006-10-31 10:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only so much a person can take. Tell him that you're getting to the point where you can't handle his behavior and that something needs to change. Tell him that you really care about him and want to help him through whatever problems he has that makes him want to push people away. Tell him that you don't appreciate him saying those hurtful, sarcastic things, and ask him to work on himself. If he truly loves you then he will try and you can help him through whatever. But if things don't start to improve, then he might've succeeded in pushing off yet another person. BUt don't give up on him yet. Tell him how you feel and see where his mind and heart is.
2006-10-31 09:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it concerns you enough for you to ask maybe its an indication that you should have a serious talk with him. Tell him how his behaviour seriously affects your feeling if this has been his pattern of behaviour for years it may take a little while for him to change but the important thing is that he at least tries.
In a couple weeks after you tell him the plain truth, if he doesn't try to change it means he doesn' t really care about your feelings and it time to go.
2006-10-31 10:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by ayanagin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell me. It's only been a month and you are already asking for help on Yahoo. Can you put up with it for the next 5 years? What about the next 10 years?
If yes, for sure stay.
If not, you know what you need to do.
PS: You can't make some one change who they are. So if you decided to stay, make sure it's because you can put up with him, not because you THINK he will change. He might, he might not. There's absolutely no guarantee and you have zero control over it.
Personally I will stay away from people like that. Girlfriends are supposed to make my life better, not add more stress to it.
2006-10-31 10:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lyon D. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is being childish, but give him a bit more time. The BIG Holidays are coming up. See how he acts during Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's. If still not matured after that, tell hiim his time's up and leave for a more mature man.
Or, of course, feel free to leave anytime during those holidays.
Don't let him ruin your holidays.
2006-10-31 10:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't trying to stop the sarcastic remarks, I'd move on. Apologizing doens't mean anything if there isn't some action behind it -- action to stop whatever is being apologized for.
2006-10-31 09:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by LiveLifeBeGood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not getting any better than dump him. You can only take so much.
2006-10-31 09:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to fix it quick as if he keeps doing it he will be a lonely old man
2006-10-31 10:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he needs to grow up or you're leaving...
It grows old FAST.
2006-10-31 09:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋