He had been trying to get me pregnant (i think) and now that I am why is he so freaked out and why does he need space I don't get it if that is what he wanted........
2006-10-31 09:48:11 · 18 answers · asked by MCB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is 34 years old and already has a daughter and he is finacially stable...What else you got?
2006-10-31 09:58:29 · update #1
18 YEARS WITH OUT THE POSSIBILITY OF PAROLE
2006-10-31 09:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by treefrog 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he was trying to get you pregnant then it will pass if not I would be worried.
Guys are very indecisive. He may have thought it sounded like fun to be a dad but seeing you pregnant bring on the reality of the situation and having a baby is hard. But it's fun too and guys are always surprised by how much they end up loving it even with all the responsibility. Women go through what is called Post partum depression after giving birth sometimes. In this situation you would feel the same way. It is said that over 65% of the time men actually experience this as well during the girls pregnancy or right after birth. This is a huge set and the stress may just be getting to him. After you have this baby you will wish you could just say I need some ME time but you can't. I think guys just realize a little earlier, during pregnancy, that ME time is shortened. My advice is give him a little space and be as understanding as possible because you may not realize what he is going through and he may really need your help. I think this action doesn't mean in any way that he loves you less or wants to be with you less. Also I would let him know that guys go through this period that way he doesn't start wondering why he is feeling this way. Good luck to both of you
2006-10-31 18:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kara C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have to grow up. Plus, they have a need to be in control. It make you the focus in the relationship. Also, you become a liability.
Be very careful. Being pregnant puts you in a dangerous position. More pregnant women die because the father, of the baby, often doesn't want either mom or baby. You have taken his freedom, money and control.
Maybe he'll be decent and come around as most normal men do.
I've just notice your P.S.. If you two are not married , I'd say he just wanted to keep you around. Why buy the cow when you are already have the milk for free! Get yourself a good lawyer and heed their counsel.
2006-10-31 17:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can it be I Think you do or don't not i think. anyway men look at it from a different perspective. Women look at it as mushy love and like that. Men on the other hand look at the responsibility side. Money your tied down for the next 18=20 yrs even longer because of collage. Are you guys married if not Then why start a family? If you are not married then both of you are not committed enough to start a family. And maybe if you think he was trying to get u preg. maybe you thought wrong instead of i think you two should of disscused this somewhat deeper than what you percieved.
2006-10-31 17:58:53 · answer #4 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a very big decision - It's a giant financial drain, as well as extremely time-consuming. Even if you have being trying for one, the thought of the whole thing can be extremely unnerving. Try sympathising with your other half, and talk with him. Communication is always key - if having a baby isn't what he genuinely wants, you're gonna' have to talk it out of him!
And if he says he needs space, give it to him, but don't give it to him reluctantly - tell him you understand that it is a stressful decision, and that you feel the same, and you completely agree with him taking time alone to think about things. Perhaps that'll also give you the time to consider whether you're making the right decision too.
Of course, don't let me discourage you - If you're both fine with it, he's probably just a bit scared about the prospect of being a father. Talk with him, perhaps let him know he's not alone, and then keep trying!!
2006-10-31 17:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Aidan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has a little to do with power and life changes. Your life and his will never be the same. You both will have another human totally dependent on you; it is a big responsiblity. Also guys have little power over the pregnancy. He only knows what a woman tells him and that in itself can be scary because of the unknown. I am sure he just needs the space to straighten himself out and hopefully be there for you when you and the baby need it.
2006-10-31 17:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably not married; he was using that line to get what he wants; and, now that he got it he sees the ties that go along with it.. He was'nt ready; and you should have examined that possibility prior to playing.. For him; he was only poking fun and did'nt mean for you to take it serious. You were a play toy and the only way to get the wrappings off was to side track you with false desires. If he needs space give it to him; than take him to court for child support, better to dump him now instead of having to go thru that divorce B.S.. face it; if you marry thats bound to happen.
2006-10-31 17:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by denfasr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple it was a way to keep you from wandering, now it's your means of locking him down for life.
Why are you having unprotected sex outside of marriage anyway!
But it's too late for that. many get get freaked out, questions start poping out
What kind of dad will I be?
Will I be a good father?
Can I provide for this family I've jsut created?
Was one night of passionate sex worth this?
Can I spend the rest of my life with this person just because I knocked her up?
and on and on...
That why you ladies need to take care of yourselves and don't fall for stupid guy ****
2006-10-31 17:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are irresponsible low lifes. and his thing is he dont like to wear a condom, but he dont want to pay the price either. if he didnt want to get u pregnant he should have wore one.... he just thinkin with the wrong head. take care of your baby he'll come around if he dont take his *** to court.!!! good luck!!
2006-10-31 17:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by mariposa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money huney it's all about the green
Mommie + Baby = BROKE
2006-10-31 17:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by FeeLnUFeeLnMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was overjoyed when i found out i was a father --- commitment and responsibility are the words to look at --- if the guy does not have them he will freak
2006-10-31 17:53:47 · answer #11 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋