I have Wine Wednesday each week. It started with 3 of my close friends and has since grown to include about 25 of my now very close friends. They are polite to everyone and clean up after themselves and each other. Problem is, the # is up to like 40 throughout the night. I personally invite my good friends every week and they are all feeling for me at the mess I have every Thursday morning. We went to a few other friends' houses, but it's not the same as my comfortable and beautifully decorated home. We've had theme parties w/ costume required but folks I hardly know still come in. I started this so I could be with and share with all my friends but it's too much work now. How can I politely weed out the folks I don't invite?
2006-10-31 09:46:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tell everyone that going forward only people who receive personal invitations from you should attend. You can send it out in a not card to everyone- just kind of like- "Wow- we have had a lot of fun, but my busy schedule will no longer allow me to host such grand gatherings".
2006-10-31 09:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take a two or three week break from the weekly gatherings and then, start all over with NEW RULES. Send out invitations. Indicate in the invitation that it is a PRIVATE party and only the people invited are the ones to attend. Call the invited friends a couple of days before the event to remind them about the gathering and also remind them they are the only ones invited and to avoid inviting others...
Have fun!
2006-10-31 14:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't inviting them, you need to find out who is, and politely let them know that you only have room for so many people in your home.
If it's getting way out of hand, you may want to send out a more formal invite, like you would for a party, and address is to very specific persons and ask for RSVPs. This might get the point across that you are not the neighborhood entertainment.
You might want to lay low for a few weeks and then start your parties back up. This could keep the freeloaders from showing up because they'll find something else to do in the meantime.
2006-10-31 09:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by Sativa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, this sounds like fun. May I come? (just kidding).
I think you may have to weed out some of the guests. Do you supply the wine for everyone? That can be very expensive.
Perhaps you can "rotate"guests- some can come one week, the others another?
How do these people know to come to your place? Does word get around that you will welcome everyone? Perhaps the first reply has a good idea- send out a note/e-mail to everyone (if you have their addresses) and say you are cutting down on the gatherings and thank them for coming, etc. Then, be very specific about whom you invite. Maybe change the nights?
2006-10-31 09:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Announce that Wine Wednesdays is now defunct.
Then secretly invite the few friends you like again.
2006-10-31 19:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer...maybe you shouldn't be such a grand hostess? smiling
I suggest making numbered (discretely) invitations and be very specific about who gets them, mentioning that the invitation is for them only. It won't take long for others to get your drift. If these measures don't work, then you will have to be more forceful.
Being popular as a adult is a bugger, is it not?
2006-10-31 09:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do these people know about the party if you aren't inviting them? And if your friends are inviting them, you need to tell them to stop.
2006-10-31 10:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let em in. Say excuse me, I don't believe that I invited you, therefore I don't have the room to occupy you.
2006-10-31 09:50:29 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Betsy B.
2006-10-31 10:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋