I am in my early forties and I dont look half bad for my age. I could pass for early thirties. A lot of people are surprise when I tell them my real age. My problem is I met this guy on my job who is 25 and he seems to think that he likes me but I try to tell him that he is to young for me and i have a son close to his age. My question is how do I let him down easy. Every time he runs into me at work he just acts so awkward but whenever I am not around he asks my friend about me. I am not asking if its okay to date him because I know that it is wrong. He is very nice looking and I do find it very flattering to have someone his age interested in me. It is so crazy. Kids are so crazy.
2006-10-31 09:41:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I was that age, I thought that women my age were immature and I was very attracted to older women. Most of them just laughed at my advances. They thought like you. But sometimes, a woman would say "what the heck" and agree to a date. They were sure that I would run screaming for the hills and that it was impossible but usually we had great times and found that we had a great deal in common. None led to marriage but the ones who gave me a shot turned out to be great friends. Think about it. Age doesn't guarantee maturity or compatibility. I watched a lot of those women who laughed at me wind up going out with total losers who were never going to change. At least with a young guy, you can still hope he'll grow up.
2006-10-31 09:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by Steve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man I'm currently involved with is 10 years younger than me. The man I dated before him is 20 years younger than me. Do you like the young man who is showing interest in you? What are you looking for in a relationship and do you think he has the potential to meet those expectations? If you are looking for a serious long term commitment the odds are it probably won't work out, although there are always exceptions to the rule. If you're interested in an activity companion (and great sex) then it could be something to consider. My very young lover and I had great fun together doing things I never got to do as a young woman (I married at 20 and divorced at 47.) Do you have children? Do you want children/more children? Does he? Most younger men who don't already have a family want one and that can be an eventual deal breaker for an older woman. The deal breaker for me was that my very young lover was a very aimless, lost, clueless individual. The man I'm with now, although younger, is goal oriented. It helps that he's also had 3 children and doesn't want more. You can't always answer all these questions up front. If you're interested in this guy and are willing to take a chance I say go for it. Keep an open mind and keep the communication lines open between you. I spoke openly with my very young man from the outset. He knew my concerns and I knew his from the get go. Whatever you decide, I wish you the best. You might want to check out the website agelesslove.
2006-10-31 09:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Debra H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you at all attracted to this "kid'?? If so, there is nothing wrong
with dating an ADULT male. It doesnt mean that it has to turn
into love. You can just spend time with him. There are plenty
of people these days who end up marrying men 20 years younger than them.
If you are not attracted to him.........then you must let him down
easy. Age is not a "good reason" to someone when they like
you. Tell him something like you think he is cute, but you have
a son his age and you just dont feel its appropriate. Also, let
him know that if he REALLY likes you he will respect your views
on the difference in age and if he cant then he is just proving to
you that you have made the right decision by NOT dating him.
Good luck :-)
2006-10-31 09:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did you ever read "Passages"? Womens sexualiity peaks at your age and with men it starts in their teens. It is not evil or wrong to have a flirtation with someone younger but you wouldn't know what to do with him outside of the bedroom. You wouldn't have anything to talk about. You could explain it to him over a cup of joe? You run the risk that he might fall in love with you if you slept with him though. And that would suck. It is never good to hurt anyone's feelings. You sound like a good person and would probably never even consider hurting his feelings...
2006-10-31 09:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by KK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing that you have to realize is that your age might not matter. It's totally up to have you feel about this guy and whether or not you can deal with his personality being that he is a little younger. You have to decide for yourself and not let others determine your future based on what they think. They are not the ones who will be in this relationship, you are.
2006-10-31 09:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At his age he's probably looking for just one thing. But then again maybe not. Other than that you should just tell him straight out that your not interested in him that way. That maybe yous can just be friends.
2006-10-31 09:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by ganstagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if his " flattery" for you makes u feel uncomfortable them you should tell him exactly how you feel. I can totally relate to what you are saying but, if you don't tell this guy exactly how you feel his "flattery" will just persist.
2006-10-31 09:50:45 · answer #7 · answered by shanti804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not wrong to date someone younger than you. look at ashton kutcher and demi moore! shes in her 40s and hes in his 20s. and theyre married!!!!!!!!! but anywayz, if i were you, give him a chance.
2006-10-31 09:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm..yea... my cousin who's 4 years younger than me? lol
2006-10-31 09:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-10-31 09:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by justsayin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋