My ex spent about 8 months messing with my head while we were dating. We were best friends beforehand and I didn't have the heart to leave him. We had a bitter breakup about 2 1/2 years ago and he moved 2000 miles away. Recently he has been trying to get back in my good graces. He said he's coming to visit in a few weeks, asked me to go to dinner with him and told me he still loves me and always will. He is always throwing volleys of compliments at me and trying to be sweet. I've told him to leave me alone many times and he doesn't listen. I haven't dated since him because I was afraid of winding up with someone like him. I absolutely do not feel the same way about him as he does about me. I'm more afraid of him. How do I kindly tell him to back off and ensure that he does this time?
2006-10-31 09:40:31 · 8 answers · asked by Artemiseos 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hello i think that you need to let him know how you feel. Be as kind as you can granted but also get your point across.
Let him know that the past is in the past.
2006-10-31 09:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by heather_honey_2002hs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell him exactly how he made you feel when you guys were going out,tell him that it wasn't a healthy realtionship for you.You shouldn't hold back on what or how you say it to him bacause obviously he didnt either when you guys were together.Dont worry too much about hurting his feeling,hes just a guy whats the worst thatcan happend.And tell him that bacause of him you haven't been able to date because he really messed with you,well good luck!
2006-10-31 09:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to need to come out of your shell sooner or later. The only way to make progress is to stick your neck out. Most of us get our share of creeps before we get to the good ones. Give the dating world a try and when you find a keeper make sure you let him in on the sitch so he's not in the dark. It doesn't sound like your ex is going to hurt you...maybe just smother you to death. If you don't want him don't let him back in.
2006-10-31 09:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by africangoddess19 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex messed with my head to. So I know what you mean. It isn't fun having someone play with your heart. Tell him exactly why you don't want to see him and tell him that you don't want to have anything to do with someone like him. Don't answer his calls, texts, emails or anything. He needs to learn his lesson.
Good Luck, he will try to get you back, but you have to stand firm.
2006-10-31 09:47:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could just ignore him........ that's the best, but if you can't ...tell him that you AND YOUR BOYFRIEND would love to join him for dinner some evening. Just name the date, and I'll check with my boyfriend and get back to you.......... then ignore him. LOL works.
2006-10-31 09:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by Judith O 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he can't learn the easy way, it's gonna have to be the hard way
2006-10-31 09:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe by getting a boyfriend? but that would hit him really hard. but drastic things come to drastic measures.
2006-10-31 09:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get one of your girlfriends to act as your new love......your a lesbian now and no interest in men.....that would work on me....this way if the 3 of you meet......their wont be a confrontation...get the picture?
2006-10-31 09:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋