My mother in law really does not like me and never has. I am sure there are some really nice mother in law's out there but every now and then you get one thats not right!!!
She has accused me of trying to sleep with her husband, having sex on her sofa with other people, putting acid on her soap.
She said she would pay for stuff for our wedding but said at the LAST minute that she did not have the money and the best of all has accused me of beating my children because they have 'a new bruise'.
My children are toddlers. They all get bruises at some stage. I don't understand what I have done to this woman to make her treat me like this. I have always been as nice as I can and ingored her when she has stuck out her toungue at me and called me a ***** when no one is looking!!
I just cannot get on with her and feel that everything she says now is meant in a nasty way. My husband won't let her look after the kids because he is worried she will say something to them too.
2006-10-31 09:22:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't let her issues become problems for you. She sounds ill and it seems your husband suspects this too. Try to cut contact with her down (but not off) and live your life as you think best. Don't let it come between you and your husband - he will (or already has) come to the right conclusions without pressure from you. Above all, look after your kids first and everything else will fall into proper perspective.
2006-10-31 09:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ian69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing well to ignore her bad behaviour. I bet that she subconsciously sees you taking her son away from her and I bet he is a bit of a mummy's boy. Ask your husband what sort of things you can involve her with in your household. It may just be to let her do the cooking for you once in a while or look after the kids. It's a bit like training a new puppy or teaching your toddlers respect for you and their things etc. The one thing I tend to do is agree with most things (there are some things I Will not agree to) then complain to my husband afterwards. He usually complains to me too! So at least we are both on the same wave length. Make sure your husband knows how you feel as he may not know what's going on and be able to defend you to your mother-in-law more often.
My Mother-in-law ruined my daughters christening party by being late with the food and then leaving me to see to it all rather than dealing with my guests. I know it doesn't sound too bad but it felt dreadful.
Good Luck!
Clare x
2006-11-01 08:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Clare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Stuff her.
What I've learnt is life is too short worrying about these things. My sister in law was the same, but I've locked her completely out of my life & so has my fiance.
We don't speak to her or her husband.
You have your own family, your own mother and father, brothers and sisters. Thats what you had growing up, and thats the only family you'll ever need.
You've survived this long without her, what makes you think you need her now?
You have started your own family too, with your husband and children.
She won't get to see her grandchildren because of her b*tchy behaviour but thats her fault since she never treated you with respect, take that respect from her & don't give her the privilege of knowing her grandchildren.
Your children have another grandmother (your mother) who won't be a b*tch and won't make anyone feel like crap.
You dont need her and never will.
Speaking from experience, locking her out of your life will be the best thing you've ever done for yourself & your kids.
You'll never have to worry, cry over her or even think about her.
2006-10-31 10:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh poor you! The worst thing my MIL did was die just recently, she was wonderful! Is she nasty to others or just you? Is your husband an only child? If your husband has your support and knows that his Mum is being a cow, both of you sit down with her and begin by asking her what the problem is and try to work it out pleasantly but if she doesn't respond to that then give her an ultimatum - either she stops being so nasty or you all won't come and visit anymore. And don't give in until she apologises and really proves that she is a worthy part of your family.
2006-10-31 09:34:45 · answer #4 · answered by mooremob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well at least your husband can see that her attitude towards you is wrong and is supporting you in not allowing her to poison the children's minds against you, try killing her with kindness be so sickly sweet to her that she starts to worry that you are up to something....I really don't think there is a solution my ex mother in law was the same the whole time i was doing for her and doing as i was told life was fine as soon as i dared form an opinion of my own it all went very sour.
Stick to your guns keep hubby onside and i hope it sorts itself out
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2016-04-27 18:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law constantly invites herself to our house. Her and my father in law live about 20 miles out of town, she actually asked for a key so they could bring their lunch to our house and eat every day. I was home sick one day with a kidney infection, and they still came over and had lunch, while I was laying on the couch. My mother in law's parents (drove from PA - it's about a 5 day drive) came to visit and she took them to our house, showed them around when both my husband and I SPECIFICALLY asked her not to! I had been folding clothes earlier in the day (I was packing for a trip) and there was underware in my bedroom, she showed them around the house anyway. She always butts into everyone's business, especially if it gives her something to analyze . . . if she finds out about something that's happening in my life (especially with my little sister) she trys to analyze why my sister did this or did that. . . SHE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW MY SISTER! wow, you shouldn't have gotten me started, but thankyou! I feel better!
2006-10-31 10:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by Carpenter's Daughter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you go to see the bi***, stay away and don't let her see the children or she'll poison their minds.
She obviously resents you taking her son away and ses you as a rival, a sad person that needs to get a life of her own.
2006-10-31 09:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by tucksie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Breathed
2006-10-31 18:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by The Guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law ranted at my mum when she called in to see her out of kindness. I took mum home crying, she had a stroke, never got out of bed again and died a few months later at 40.
2006-10-31 11:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by toaster 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋