I am 18 and in first year of college live at home and i like a guy who is 24 and my parents do not approve think he is too mature or advanced for me?could someone explain there point of view?
2006-10-31 09:21:31 · 13 answers · asked by Tiffancy L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hi Hunny,
I have a 13 yrold daughter and if she came on here and said she had a man she like how is 19 what would you think????
I know i would be saying stay away for my daughter or i will have you balls for my tea!!!
BUT!!!!!!
Your 18 and your are old enough to make your own mistakes, if you were my daughter i would be worried just like your parents or about you, they dont want you to get hurt!! or putting your life on hold by getting Pregnant.
Your mother and father are only looking out for your best interests hunny!!
Just take you time with this man and your mother and father may come round to the idea!!!
I really do wish you all the luck x x x x
2006-10-31 09:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dharma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters we are parents worrying is what we do! I personally do not see a problem with it, I have a daughter who is almost 18, there is not that much a difference in maturity between a 24 year old guy and an 18 year old girl, everyone knows that most of the time girls mature faster than boys do. However if the guy is a loser with no job, education etc I would be throwing a fit too, sometimes as parents and because we are older we see things that you as an 18 year old don't see. they may see things in him that raise some warning flags. try to talk to them and see exactly what it is they do not like if its just his age then its ridiculous and they are being a little overprotective otherwise try to listen to their concerns. I can't even begin to tell you how may times my mom has been right about things that she told me and i didn't listen too!
2006-10-31 15:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Larissa D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents are concerned that you may get off track w/ school, and they also don't want to see you get into a relationship you may not really be ready to handle. A 24 y/o has a whole lot more experience in life than does an 18 y/o. I was married at 21, and pregnant at 25, so you can see where that experience may be. I would just take it slow, and if this is a good relationship, your bf won't mind going slow and showing your parents that he's the real thing and he respects you and wants you to finish school and experience all of that. If he's not, than he's not worth it.
2006-10-31 09:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibly very large level of maturity and experience difference between an 18 and a 24 year old. Large differences in maturity and experience in relationships often lead to heartache, conflict and other problems. Sounds like they are trying to save you a lot of trouble. Based only on your style of writing, I would guess that you are not quite mature enough to be dating a 24 year old.
2006-10-31 09:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 05:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by kaufmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are worried about you. They see that you're growing up and don't want to lose you. 18 & 24 are not too huge of an age gap. Maybe try taking it slow and slowly introducing him to your parents. Bottom line is that you are an adult now and it's time to start acting like one. If you like this guy then be mature about it.
2006-10-31 09:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are simply worried that this man has more life experience than you and may want to take advantage of your naivety. It probably has nothing to do with the guy himself but more about them wanting good things for you!!!
When I was 19 I dated a guy for 2 1/2 yrs. He was 25...we ended up having a baby together. Before all that my mom told me this guy was bad news, I didn't believe her. 6 months into the relationship he started pushing me around and hitting me!!! I lived with this for 2 1/2 yrs. It finally got so bad that I had to escape while he left to the store all I could take was a change of clothes for my daughter , formula diapers and a car seat.
What I am saying is that your parents might be more experienced than you in judging someones character. I'm not implying htat this guy of yours is violent, but find out why your parents object so much...maybe its instinct or intuition!!!
2006-10-31 09:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are probably just worried that you'll get hurt. They are probably also worried about losing their baby girl. Take your time, move slowly, and I think things will be okay.
I got married at 22 to someone who was 10 years older than I am, and while my mom was pissed off for a few years, she's come around. She still doesn't love my husband (and we've been together for 11 years, married for 10 years), but she's accepted that he's here to stay.
2006-10-31 16:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by c4sgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 years is a bit of a gap at that age, because if you fast forward, when he is 30 and more than ready to settle down (perhaps) you will only be 24. It can work, my wife is 5 years older than me.
Just see how it goes, and get on birth control now.
2006-10-31 09:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents just really want to see their daughters with someone closer to their own age. One of the most common reasons would be an older guy would just be looking for a younger girl as bragging rights to his friends. Most parents don't want to see their chcildren used like that. Hope it helps.
2006-10-31 09:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by igor27jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋