Okay, so, here's the dilemma. Fiance and I have been together 6 years. It's really time to get married and we'd like to before we start a family. The problem? I don't want a big wedding (if I could just sign papers and be done with it I would). My family won't be there for two reasons: 1. they can't get along in the same room for 2 minutes 2. they all live far away and probably wouldn't even take the time out to come.
While my fiances family is close and do get along, I want something quick and small. Maybe just us and a couple of witnesses.
Here in B.C. you can't just go to the courthouse and do it there. You need to have a commissioner of marriage perform it or do it at a church.
The commissioner of marriage goes wherever you want to have the service.
So, got any ideas that are quick and easy? Also, how do you break it to the people who won't be coming ie. my family?
When my dad got remarried he told us like a week beforehand and we didn't go cuz we were far away.
2006-10-31 09:20:12 · 19 answers · asked by aprilandroland 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yeah, I might just have to call the courthouse and find out details about that. At least we can have his parents there as witnesses.
2006-10-31 09:29:31 · update #1
You can be married at a court house. All you need is 2 witnesses. No family, no fighting. I wish you the best
Oh....You and hubby should do something special for the Honeymoon.
~T~
2006-10-31 09:22:57 · answer #1 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you live near the water. Maybe there is a cruise along the coast that you can do it on. We were considering that. Or you can book a small room at a great restaurant for just a few friends and family, have the ceremony and reception right there.
Just what ever you do, don't try to do it yourself, no matter how small. I looked into that and it's a BIG deal. But shop around for your stuff. eBay rocks and if you want a silk flower arranger I'll give you the name of the person that I used. She is online and did a beautiful job for a very reasonable price. VERY reasonable.
2006-10-31 10:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. My fiance and I are planning the same thing. We both want small. My family's (small bunch) about 3 hours away, her's ( a bit larger group) are mostly local. I'd prefer just a handful of friends in the park or something, then a light wine and snacks feed afterwards. Reckon I'll just wait to see what happens...
2006-10-31 09:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered having a small ceremony at his parents home?
Just because it is small doesn't mean that it can't be nice and something that you will be proud to tell your children about someday.
As for your family...send them an announcement after the fact and don't explain unless they call you and ask, then tell them that it was just a small ceremony and that only those essential to it were invited. You needn't even tell them it was at fiance's parents. Just say it was at some very close friends's home and let it go at that.
2006-10-31 14:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try a destination wedding. You can go on a cruise or to a beautiful island and invite whoever you want. The important people will probably come and if it's an all-inclusive place, you won't have to pay for a reception. Plus everyone gets a nice little vacation.
2006-10-31 10:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and I decided to get married we decided we wanted to get married as soon as possible. So we picked the next day we both had off work together. We had two weeks to plan our wedding. His father was ordained so he married us. My family was clear across the country and couldnt come up with that much money that soon so it was just his family. They were a lil upset but that they understood I was in love and wanted to get married then.I would say to just find someone ordained in your area and ask them to do it. Most of them will do it for free even. We just got married in a park and it was quick but still cute.
2006-10-31 14:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your fiance's house if big enough why not have a small family thing at his house, either in the back yard or in the living room. There would be no real need to get fancy just have a cook out afterward.
2006-10-31 11:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in B.C. you can go down to where the boats dock and the Emperor Hotel is. It's very beautiful there with the government buildings and rolling grass.
If you want it small, keep it small. You can send out announcements after the fact if you'd like.
2006-10-31 10:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small is best. Then spend the saved money on a large honeymoon.
Look for a walk-in and get married place, like Reno, Nevada or something. They have the whole place set up like a real big wedding but the benefit is you don't have to set up or clean up.
2006-10-31 09:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pick a church, grab the commissioner and some close friends (plus his family) and a cheap dress (or you could go buy a prom type dress) and then go to a nearby field and pick some flowers! Wala! Sit them all down and get married! :D
2006-10-31 09:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋