my friend that is 8 years older than me and is like a sis to me has been mad at me for months becuz of things ive said to her
ive apologized so many times...but she wont forgive me or talk to me...we were real close, and i dont know what else to do to make things ok....it really hurts me that she doesnt love me enough to talk to me anymore
2006-10-31 09:16:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok, i did something..and she turned her back on me when i really needed her...im 16 years old shes 24, she was the person i always went to for help, and she turned her back on me when i needed her most of all.
i got mad cuz she turned on me...and called her a b***
we made up after that...then i called her and she said somethin to me to hurt me...and we got in another fight..and she hasnt talked to me since , and wont return my calls or emails, she lives in california, i live in washington...long story....anyway....yeh...thats what happend
2006-10-31 09:25:06 · update #1
My advise would be to simply write her a letter, explaining one more time that you are sorry and let her know you miss her. Just tell her how you have been feel in.
Don't let the guilt eat you up. We have all said things we regret no matter what anyone says...
If your sister doesn't respond or try to reconnect this relationship, just keep peace of mind in knowing you did the right thing.
Unfortunately we can't think for others.
Sadly, if this is her choice to stay away...Stop grieving (that is what you are doing) and start living your life. We are very limited in what we can do or say in situations like this.
Just knowing in your heart you did everything in your power to 'fix' things will make you feel better.
One day, although I can't tell ya when, nor can anyone else, these type of things seem to slowly, in time, go away...
In my opinion, although you may be the youngest, you are the mature one.
*HUGS*
~T~
2006-10-31 09:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hummmm well what did you say to her??? I mean did you love her enough when you said the hurtful things. Sometimes people just need space! Try writing her a letter so she can actually sit down and hear what you have to say without you being there. Let her know why you said what you said and how sorry you are for doing that. I bet after she reads it she will give you a call and forgive you. But you have to be honest..... even if the truth hurst, besides what's the worst that can happen she already doesn't talk to you.
2006-10-31 17:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation recently and she was like a sister to me as well but i already tried calling and apologizing in a message and she never returned my phone call.To me that is not a real friend and i'm not gonna kiss her *** plus the arguement we had was really not my fault and i feel i was justified for saying what i said and i still apologized so if she doesn't accept it then screw her 'cause you can find a better friend.Good luck.
2006-10-31 17:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe she's not as much of a friend as you thought she was. Sometimes, we can't take back our words or deeds and have to live with the consequences. I am sorry that you are hurt, but maybe you could find a new friend that is even more of a friend.
2006-10-31 17:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by KoKo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should just let her cool. There might be something on her mind from teenage or adult stuff that is on her mind. another thing to try is to make sure that she relizes that just because she is older yall are still the same. My friend and i had the same prob. so i know how you feel. we are bff's again though. I'm praying for you,
Cute Chic
2006-10-31 17:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Cute Chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it. Sorry to break it to you, but maybe she isn't like a sis after all. A sis forgives many times, because of what's called unconditional love.
2006-10-31 17:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read your other question - you need to talk to your parents :) It sounds like you need support, and maybe if you can talk to your parents, your sister will see the whole picture as well. You are sisters, hopefully something like this won't come between you.
2006-10-31 22:06:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Lucky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is tired being a mother to you.may be you don't see it in that way but that is the truth.
2006-10-31 18:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gonna have to take a while to build up that trust again...good luck!
2006-10-31 17:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like you can't do anything to change her mind. hopefully she'll come around.
2006-10-31 17:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by Mariah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋