My wife doesn't want to have any intimacy with me for over 4 years, because I seem to be the problem.
2006-10-31 09:06:36 · 6 answers · asked by dallasdailynews 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sorry you are having problems but it sounds like your wife may be taking it a bit too far. Have you considered counseling or maybe asking asking her for ideas to solve the problem? 4 years is a long time without intimacy, the problem must be medical or one of you done something you now regret?
I recommend counseling if you want to save the marriage.
2006-10-31 09:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by dazedreamr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counseling. She's suppose to be there to help you dude. Nobody wants to come across as a "Dependant" towards anyone....but isnt that what marriage is suppose to be?
Your never gonna feel better about anything until you feel better about yourself first.
Seek out counseling for yourself, but realize that you may end up seeking a mediator to help make sense of you and your wife's relationship because when you realize how "Close" you two really are, there will definetly be some changes after you start feeling better.
In a way, you are the problem, because you've seem to have lost yourself, and you need to find that person again.
My personal belief is thats why people get depressed. They, in a sense forget who they are. So they're stuck in this "Limbo" place in which there are all of these questions with no answers that only the real you can answer.
Get back to you, find out why you left, and find out how your gonna stay. Nothings wrong with feeling down every now and then. Thats natural. But prolonged feelings such as these (Depression) causes you to forget who you really are and that could be bad for you and everyone around you (Your wife).
As soon as you get yourself straightened out, you can worry about the wife and that intimacy issue.
2006-10-31 17:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by diaz276 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you and your wife have not had intimacy with one another for 4 years is a serious problem in itself. It sounds as though she may be depressed as well. You should both try counciling before giving up.
2006-10-31 17:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by kmstorey35 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression is a horrible experience. Believe me, I know. I suffer from clinical depression every 7 years. Finally my doctor figured out it was a chemical abnormality in the Serotonin in my brain. He prescribed medication, and I have felt fine ever since.The cycle has been broken. Be sure you are getting treatment, and as far as your wife is concerned, I hate to say it, but you need to take care of your own health first even if it means you leave her to her miserable, selfish attitude. Take her with you to the doctor's who will try to explain to her what you are going through. Good luck!!
Chow!!
2006-10-31 17:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by No one 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience, when you're depressed, you have no interest at all in sex or anything else for that matter.
2006-10-31 18:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by serialmom12 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her. find someone who loves for you. you can't keep kissing her butt. you have too much worth
2006-10-31 17:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋