My sisters boyfriend is a total looser. They have a 1yr old and a 2yr old, he refuses to work, my sister has to work to buy food and diapers. He always takes her money to buy crank. He does little side jobs but all that money goes up his nose too. They are homeless and living in a car and he still won't get a job.
For some reason my sister is just maddly inlove with this guy.
But he treats her terrible, calls her all kinds of names and has hit her. He's 28 and she's 19.
I hate him and just wish he'd fall off a cliff, then at least my sis and her babies would have a fighting chance.
Is it morally wrong to feel this way?
2006-10-31 09:00:40 · 17 answers · asked by Lesley C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No you are just being a good sister. and wishing someone dead is a natural feeling. you shouldn't be ashamed of it like many religions say. It is part of being human. the only wrong thing would be act appon it. then you cross the line. but as far as wishing some one dead it is natural.
btw i hope things turn better for you sis. it sounds like she will need you when she finially wakes up and smells the coffee
2006-10-31 09:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by last_red_dragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you "my" story, then you decide if it's wrong to wish someone dead, okay? Nine years ago, I was with the most wonderful guy a woman could ask for, he was just great! One day we were argueing about something stupid that "I" wanted to do, but he said no, we shouldn't. I got really mad, (bad temper)
and I said, "I wish you were dead!" Of course I apologized for saying that, and of course he forgave me, but those hateful words came back to haunt me for the rest of my life! Three months after I said that to him, we found out he had cancer, and one year later, he was dead. I miss my husband so very much! We did everything together, went everywhere together, cried & laughed together. Now he's gone. And although what I said to him that day, didnt kill him, I have to live with those terrible words.
I believe God sent the man I'm married to now, to maybe give me another chance to treat "him" right, and I already know what "not" to say to him. He's equally a wonderful guy, treats me so very good, and he loves me with all his heart. So whether it's a husband, a nasty neighbor or a vicious dog, I'll never say anything like that again. Now ask yourself, is it wrong to wish a person dead?
2006-10-31 09:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get someone to beat him up or make your sister leave the a$$hole. I think as far as wishing he was dead is just a feeling some of us get when we are sadden by a situation, I have thought of the same-thing about someone before. So no I don't think its morally wrong.
2006-10-31 09:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by marine_wife001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to feel this way, but it's a waste of your energy. It burdens you with too much negativity. Crank may be his thing, but he is not the only one with an addiction. Your sister is just as sick (ill) and 50% of the equation. She is also putting her children in this situation as much as he is.
Don't burden yourself by falling in the same negative pit they are in. You can't live their lives for them. You can try and gently help your sister see her role in the situation, but only when she is receptive to the idea or she will only feel alienated. She is no victim here in the scenario you've presented.
Believe me, she's only 19 now, she WILL get sick of living this way in a number of years.
2006-10-31 09:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by here_nor_there 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is morally wrong to feel that way, however you are in tittled to have bad feelings about someone that is mistreating someone that you care about. But my question to you is what are you trying to do to help your sister out of this situation besides telling her that this guy is not so nice and wishing he would fall off a cliff?????
2006-10-31 09:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in the bible it says never to hate
you can dis like someone but dont hate them. I understand that he is a really bad person and you wish the worst for him but right now all you can do is pray that god will find a better place for her to raise her family and get a really good job and possible go back to school. Dont hate him just pray for her and him to get there lives straight.
2006-10-31 09:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a christian, then consider this verse.
In Matthew 5:21-22a Jesus says, "you have heard that it was said to the people long ago, 'do not murder and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.' But i tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment."
Now, I'm not trying to condemn you, and neither is Jesus, he's just saying there that we are called to a higher standard. I'm not saying I've never been angry, and i will certainly be angry again, but we need to love others.
Nevertheless, this guy doesn't sound worthwhile. i will be praying for you and your sister. I hope the guy gets lost, and that he can get a better life, WITHOUT your sister.
peace be with you.
2006-10-31 09:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by yuuki chan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has someone they wish that was dead
and maybe your sister mightt get lucky it will happen with all the stuff he is stuffing up his nose it migh happen soon
but as much as it hurt you will just have to pray that your sister see the light, and for now maybe you can try to help with the children make a special day for them once in a while
and you might talk to your sister about take care of the kids not her loser boyfriend
Good luck
2006-10-31 09:08:47 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your dumb a z z sister want to waste her precious life with this loser there nothing you can do about it. But if you know she is living in a car with these two beautiful babies, get protective service involve. let someone keep her children fed, love, and warm, while she gone on the wasted journey she need to with this bum.
2006-10-31 09:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably hate him, and I don't blame you for it. Hate is part of human nature. You can deal with it constructively by getting the police to profile him if they haven't already. Better yet, a restraining order. And be there for your sister; she might need to live with you for a while.
2006-10-31 09:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋