How would i go about telling him that I am okay with it and then finding someone to do it with? I mean should it be someone we know and that we are comfortable with or what. I just want to spice up our love life and figured this would be a way.
2006-10-31 08:48:19 · 38 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're sick.
2006-10-31 08:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just come right out and tell him. I promise he'll be excited. I remember when I brought up the idea to my husband, I didn't even get the sentence out of my mouth before he was already agreeing. As for finding someone to do it with, that can be rather tricky. It has to be someone that you trust. Someone that you know that will not try to cut you out of the relationship, and someone that you know will still be comfortable with after the episode is over. I was friends with a few of the girls that we've been with prior to the "event," and I'm still great friends with them. On the other hand, the thrill of the chase alone can spice up your sex life. Try going to a "lifestyle" club that allows single females into the bar. That way, you know the girls there are okay with the whole situation. Either way you decide, good luck with your endeavors.
2006-10-31 08:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good question and you are a very good woman for agreeing to be with another woman and your fiancee'.
You should just tell him. then ask how he suggests you go about it.
Disclose your fears and off limits play or you might cause problems for the future.
Ie: what acts don't you want him performing on her or her on him? What acts doesn't he not want you performing on her or her on you (this should be a VERY short list if at all)?
Ideally it depends on why you want to have a threesome whether it is a stranger or not. It depends on your personalities. In either case YOU should be the one making contact and talking to the woman because you want her to feel comfortable that you are genuinely interested and it isn't your fiancee' pushing it.
Don't listen to the loosers on this question who are telling you not to then judging you. Who the **** are they to judge you or your situation. If it is something you want to do you have obviously thought it over and it is your choice. Don't let the "armchair generals" sway your decision. you asked for information about how to go about it, that is what a few people here are giving you. If you are doing it because you are bieng pressured into it but don't feel comfortable then don't, but that should be YOUR decision based on YOUR circumstances and YOUR relationship no one here is qualified to make that decision except you. All we can do is offer advice on issues and things that may come up. Don't confuse doubt with bieng nervous. As long as the three of you communicate what you want and the boundaries you should be ok. And whether that girl is going to stay over or leave after and how you need to communicate so it isn't awkward afterwards.
2006-10-31 08:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband asked me the same thing but based on other stories i have herd I would not do something like that that is not spice. If he wants spice get him a new porn movie,dress up for him or better yet how about the good old sex shop lots of different ideas there do not do that that is not good for a relationship.
2006-10-31 09:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by NONE OF UR BIZ!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something the 2 of you really need to sit down and discuss...not just pillow talk either. Think of all the consequences that may come with it...the pros & cons. The obvious pro would be you able to see your fantasies come to life...ever think of if you end up preferring girls to your hubby? These are all questions you both have to come to terms with. Do not jump in just for the sake of experimentation.
And remember to set boundaries as to what is ok and what is not. You may only want your hubby to watch you with the other girl and if he does get involved it would only be with you. Like I said you must have complete trust and great communication with each other if you want to travel down this road.
As far as finding someone, check out singles online in your area. This would be a start. And as far as knowing them or not before this is a tricky one. You want to know if they have any STD's of course but you don't want them to be someone you see all the time cuz it may be awkward after. Go at your own pace finding someone and when its right it will all fall into place.
Good luck and hope you find what you are looking for.
2006-10-31 09:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW...Meg, I'm not even going to get into the fact that I'm a Christian and there is one God out there who loves you, but what are you thinking?!? If you need to spice up your love life at so early a stage in your relationship being that you two aren't even married yet, then why are you trying to make things worse by bringing someone else into the picture to confuse things. If you really love this guy, you would want to keep him for yourself. Doesn't that make sense? Please write me back...
2006-10-31 08:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that I would be ok with it, but probably best thing to do is post or look through classifieds on Craigs List. I will tell you though, threesomes can get complicated and may end up with you not trusting your partner (along with your own comfort level and the threat of STD's). If I were you, I wouldn't do it
2006-10-31 08:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Chaga 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really don't think that you need a threesome to spice up your love life, there are other ways of spicing up your love life, but if thad is what you both want, just be careful on whom you pick.
2006-10-31 08:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't spice anything up, it just ruins it. Just don't get married if you're going to do all that. Chances are he doesn't want to bring another guy in there, so how is it that you're totally cool with bringing in another chick for him to lust after? Clear your head and then make a decision.
2006-10-31 09:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think just telling him that will work fine. Also I dont think you should do it with someone you know, you may not like it and it could be akward in the future for you. It is nice to see that some women are sexually liberated enough to try it at least.
2006-10-31 08:52:18 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you're ok with it you better lay some ground rules first you both have to agree on the third partner and make it clear that its a one time deal . it would be best if it is someone you both know but at the same time you have to be willing to understand that maybe this aint gonna end i think if you do it once its gonna have to happen again. so you need to really think about if this is the right thing to do. i wish you lots of luck.
2006-10-31 08:56:41 · answer #11 · answered by fstrkm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋