We are only have family and very close friends to our the daytime do and then a big party at night for everyone else. My mum and dad have 3 friends (that I have known for years to) and I don't know if I should invite them to the daytime. They have to come along way and will probalby stay at our house with mum and dad. I like them but I see them maybe every other year.
My sister invited them to her wedding a few years back but she had a big wedding (and lots more £ than us!)
I don't want to upset anyone what do I do?
2006-10-31 08:47:27 · 63 answers · asked by Me Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We are only inviting two lots of close friend but have many more that we could invite .I don't want them to get upset if I invite mum and dads friends!
2006-10-31 09:43:42 · update #1
It's YOUR wedding. Invite whomever you please. If the wedding ceremony is small and intimate, invite them to the big evening bash you're having. But whatever you decide - remember, it's your wedding.
2006-10-31 08:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds very similar to the wedding my fiancé and I are having (only family and very close friends in the day, then a party for everyone in the evening). I personally would only invite your parents friends to the evening party if you don't consider them to be YOUR close friends. I know people have said 'how much can 3 extra people cost?' but it's all the extras that add up. I am getting married in December, on a budget, and I realise how much will be added to the bill by just having one extra person (based on what we are having, one extra each of invitation, arrival drink, meal, wine, champagne for toast, favour and place card, would come to about £55 - just for one person).
2006-11-01 00:48:48 · answer #2 · answered by Little Bo Peep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though they're in the 'friends of friends' category, and they should only come to the big evening party with everyone else. You don't really want to have to invite them to the ceremony, do you? So don't. Explain tactfully, but firmly, to your parents that the daytime event is for close friends only. Send an invite for the evening do to the 'f of fs' with no explanation. It's your wedding, not your parents' or their friends, and you have to put your foot down. Hope you have a fantastic day.
2006-10-31 08:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm confused, at least in the US, Wedding Ceremonies do not have a limit of guests, (there is no cost to attend the ceremony, only the reception).
I personally believe that the ceremony is the most important part. Why would anyone go to the party if they were not invited to the "real deal" the ceremony?
I frequently only go to ceremonies, you are there for the important part, & the happy couple doesn't have to pay for you.
2006-10-31 10:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since they are out of town guests staying at you parents house you should invite them. If they were staying at a hotel you could get away without inviting them to the daytime event. Good Luck.
2006-10-31 08:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by Bookworm4124 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are coming a long way for the night time it would probably be a good idea to invite them to the daytime
2006-10-31 08:51:22 · answer #6 · answered by toon_tigger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are staying at your parents' house, think about how they would feel when everyone leaves for the wedding, but they are only invited to the reception. Invite them.
2006-11-01 03:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dead straight with them and say that you are only having a small do and you'll be really happy to see them at the church and later in the evening, but the daytime do is just your family and joint close friends. Everyone understands about the cost of weddings. Anyway, it's your day, forget pleasing everyone else.
2006-10-31 08:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by jaykay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if they will have to stay at your parents house you should probably invite them to the daytime thing. It will seem kinda awkward for them to be at your parents house then, wait at the house while your parents are at your daytime thing. If they are going to stay with your parents invite them to the day time tings..... hey whats two more people??? Plus I am sure they will make up the for expense with a nice gift.
2006-10-31 08:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is by no means a professional answer, but I'd say that if your parents are good friends with them and you know them well too, I would invite them . There are only 3 of them, so it's not like a big group, and you don't have a good excuse not to invite them.
2006-10-31 08:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by chula198705 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your day so do what you want to do, so many people plan a wedding around others and keeping them happy but the point is it is your day. If they are close friends of yours by all means invite them but f you don't see them that often I'm sure they will understand!
Do you what you feel is best for you and enjoy your day!!
2006-10-31 09:00:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋