My bf and i have been together a year have a tirbulent relationship sometimes breaking up three times in one week over piety arguments over anything getting back together and breaking up all the time. Jealousy attacks on both sides and bad arguments where things get thrown.We are both in college which does not help.We are both polar opposites with everything!We are both stubborn and he likes to mess with me to get me mad and both of us has a temper. I have always kind of liked his friend John to begin with but since he was bit heavy i went out with my bf.John and i are good friends and i know he likes me and he is always there for me to talk to recently i had a pregnancy scare and my bf would not pick up his cell phone and John took me to doctor.I have feelings for John and now he is a good guy and i see potential in him he is smart and starting his own buisness /responsible.Will this make thing akward if i do?
2006-10-31 08:43:03 · 10 answers · asked by Tiffancy L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
John always has a way to make me feel special and i think respects me more than my bf.
2006-10-31 08:45:39 · update #1
Unless this is a remarkably small college I suggest finding someone else altogether.
2006-10-31 08:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a difficult grey area, you have to ask yourself how would you feel if your bf dumped you for your best mate???
John does sound like a charming gentleman and i can see why when you are low and hurting that he's the one you turn to. be very careful it could and probably will go teribbly wrong if you chose john. if your bf and john are close close mates you may find that john may never go out with you it depends they may be going off in different directions and drift apart anyway if this is the case let that happen don't be the reason for their friendship falling apart because john will never forget that.
2006-10-31 08:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by kittycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will definitely make things awkward. You would be dating the friend. This will end their friendship as I am sure you are aware. Is it worth doing that? The relationship you have with your boyfriend sounds unhealthy to begin with. Get out of it, but not necessarily just to date the friend. You need to weigh the consequences of this action and really be prepared for the outcome of whatever you decide. Be smart, be informed, be honest about it.
2006-10-31 08:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by madevali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do John a favor and do not date him because you see potential in him. You would only end up trying to change him and make him into what you think he could be. If you like him for who he is then great but dont date him for who he might become someday.
2006-10-31 08:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful with that situation. Dating your bf's(or ex bf's) friend would cause some problems when your bf could mouth off about you calling you innapropriate names. I think you should just wait it out until the storm calms.
2006-10-31 08:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by dj_substanc3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't sound like your relationship is working out that well..I would say talk to your boyfriend...(possibly move on) and if you still have feelings for his friend..talk to his friend and see how he feels, then if anything happens wiht that, go explain to your boyfriend that you have feelings and you can't help how you feel.
2006-10-31 08:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one if your relationship is that bad you shouldn't be in it at all but put that first and if you really decide you dont want to be together then look at other options dont just break up with him for his friend it probably won't work out that way
2006-10-31 08:46:43 · answer #7 · answered by KrIsTyN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with John He sounds better
2006-10-31 08:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might, but you have to be honest with yourself and with your bf, if you have feelings for John, maybe you should explore them
2006-10-31 08:46:30 · answer #9 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all i can tell you is that they might hate each other
2006-10-31 08:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by lacey j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋