I have a 4 yr old son who has been potty trained since he was 2. I also have a 2 yr old in the house that is watching and doing everything my oldest is doing. My husband is in the military and currently deployed and since he left my son started peeing all over the house. I'm tired of popping his butt/legs everytime he does it. How do I get my 4 yr old to start using the toilet again? Any advice or tips would be grateful. Thank you.
2006-10-31 08:39:37 · 15 answers · asked by Bran 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
No offense to the previous posters but I think there is danger in attributing your husband's disappointment to his accidents. It is classic regression, but the truth is that your child must know that poop and pees go into the toilet, period. Thats's what big kids do and that's what adults do.
If you say that Daddy will be upset, I think this may confuse him even more and also may make future accidents (sometimes they aren't deliberate) traumatic, especially since he is away. That must make it difficult for him as it is.
I'd put a positive spin on it and say how proud Daddy would be to hear or see (video) him helping and showing his little sibling how to go in the toilet.
Positive reinforcement is likely to be more effective. Sticker charts, video time, treats, getting to draw pics for Daady, etc. And making it positive will build his confidence.
2006-10-31 11:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Rob in NY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should buy a potty seat he can use at the grownup potty, or you'll make him use the baby. Either manner you'll be able to quite often must keep in the toilet with him till he is going for the primary few months of potty coaching. Don't count on him to be capable to head in there and deal with it himself. Grab a publication and plant your self till he is going. Don't make it traumatic. You can present a gift of a few style if he makes use of both potty (like 2 m&m's). Be sufferer even supposing he is not and do not fear. Training takes time.
2016-09-01 05:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by kaufmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience..... I agree with everyone else, he´s acting out that daddy isn´t around. Just let him know you´re there for him 100 % and that he´s not doing anything wrong. Sometimes when children feel their being yelled at, they repress their feelings. You need to let him know he can feel comfortable with you. Then just tell him why he needs to use the toilet....Explain to as you would any other person, he´ll understand.
Just don´t make the mistake my friend´s mother did.... she potty-trained her putting the faucet on.....to this day my friend cann´t walk by any park fountain or waterfall, because she´d need to go to the bathroom !!!
The perfect mother is one the gives you knowledge, committment, love, and the understanding that we all need room to grow so we can become our own person.
2006-10-31 09:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Pulgita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you I am also a military spouse and when we have a big change like a deployment and most recently a PCS my 3 year old will regress. He will have accidents and just realize that while it is hard on you it is hard on him too but you understand and he doesn't. With my son it would last anywhere from a few weeks to a month but it does stop.
2006-10-31 08:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by txmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you got to understand that he is probably acting out b/c daddy isnt home. He doesnt understand very well where he is and why he doesnt see him. Don't spank him for it. Just tell him when he pees he knows he needs to do it in the potty. Take him to the bathroom afterwards. and when he does it in the potty reward him for it. Be patient, its hard on him too.
2006-10-31 15:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Using his dad is a good idea. Anyone he looks up to can be used. Tell him he's the little man of the house and big boys don't potty on themselves.
2006-10-31 08:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kandieapples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that daddy does not pee all over, and that daddy would be sad to come home to that. Sometimes they do things to get attention. He knows how to go in the potty, and should be doing that. regression is due to dad not being there, because it is allowed he will keep doing it. correct and enjoy.
2006-10-31 08:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bribery eg chocolate, sweets, stickers on reward chart. You could also say that you can email/speak to daddy when he gets it right since he's old enough to understand that. You could also try to find out why he's doing it now - feeling rejected or insecure? Good luck.
2006-10-31 08:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by J_Dobbins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is doing this because his dad is gone. If I was you I would make him clean himself when he does this. I would also take him to the bathroom to toliet every 2 hours the same way I was doing with the younger child.
2006-10-31 15:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by NEET29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is you need to make him clean it up himself with toilet paper and then have him put the toilet paper in the toilet. Tell him if you went in the toilet to start with you wouldn't have to do this anymore.
2006-10-31 08:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋