now what? I really care about him and think I love him but...how does one know? how long can I wait to figure this out? if it takes too long does what does that mean? is there a point when he or I should just move on? (26 years old and dating for 3 months)
2006-10-31 08:37:56 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's being a chump, youre reacting by not being attracted to him. he needs to be more of a leader and sweep you off your feet, but he's not doing that. i guess if this continues you'll just lose interest gradually and the relationship will fall apart, which is the way youre starting to feel already
its a learning experience. its not your fault. if he mans up, then you'll love him the way you want to, if not, learn and move on, and he'll learn and move on as well. cheer up, a better man will come along
2006-10-31 08:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by unkerpaulie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can wait until the time is right and you feel it your heart, then you know the time is right. Three months is not a long time to be dating, and 26, you still have alot of living to do. If it takes to long, I believe that you take Love seriously and will tell him when you know for sure, You move on when the communication is no longer there and respect for each others feeling is gone, then that is a good sign to move on. For now I would enjoy myself and let things happen naturally...
2006-10-31 16:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jamaison D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see him, look him in the eye and tell him that you care for him, but are uncertain of your true feelings of love. Honesty is always best, an I'm glad you resisted the urge to tell him I love you back. Now your still on a level playing field, take your time sweetie, I wish I had been as smart as you. Two failed marriages because the one I was with at the time said I love you and I said it back before I knew what was spewing from my lips.
2006-10-31 16:44:28 · answer #3 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may need more time. With one of my ex boyfriend's I dated him 2 years and wasn't sure I truly loved him - that's why I broke things off. He wanted marriage and I thought whoa, back up the truck. With my now husband, I knew almost instantly. This guy might not be the one...but since it's only been 3 months, keep exploring and explain this to him too.
2006-10-31 16:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are in love you will know it and there will not be any doubt. Hard to explain how but trust me you will know. As far as how long it will take, that is hard for me to say because with my wife I knew within a couple of hours of meeting her.
2006-10-31 16:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, you really like him and care about him but you're just not ready to call it 'love' yet. If you are good to each other and generally have a good thing going, it's dumb to get hung-up on words.... love is beyond words anyway :)
2006-10-31 16:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by zmj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if youre not sure then you probably dont love him...i usually know in less time than that..is bonding enough or do you want more? thats the question you will have to answer...there are many kinds of love..
2006-10-31 16:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel a NEED, a necessity for him... being with him, touching him, kissing him, etc.... If you do, you're probably falling or already in love... just admit it and accept it....
If you're scared to accept it, youll just dirve him away
2006-10-31 16:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by ssota 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said it and you did not you should not feel bad for you . You should only say it if you feel it and not any sooner.
2006-10-31 16:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by L A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋