God says that the husband is the head of the household. If the head is screwed up, then the rest of the body?

Question

will be screwed up. I am no longer with my husband, how do I ever forgive him?

Answer 1

Yes but he never said you can't change the head or the body.

Answer 2

When your husband is unfaithful to your marriage, resulting in separation and/or divorce, he is no longer the head of the household. He forfeited that by his sin. You now become the head and it is your responsibility to lead your family spiritually. As far as forgiveness goes... you need to forgive him for your sake. Forgiveness heals you. It does not set him free of his responsibility or guilt. He still has to deal with God about that. Unforgivness will ruin your own heart. He may not even care about how you hurt. But when you choose to forgive him, it frees you to heal. It also puts all the problem in God's hands and he can then move in your husbands life with judgement, punishment, or whatever God wants to do there. Perhaps God is teach him something. Sure as shootin He is teaching you too. You will be a better woman, spiritually stronger, able to help others who go through it later. God always has a purpose. He allows it... He does not cause the pain.. Our choices did that. Your husband is a victim of sin and satan and needs to be viewed as that from your point of view. Don't be bitter, and don't make your children bitter. Take the higher road and set the example that he should have done. Pray for him, but don't give him an inch until he has proved over time that he is a God changed man!

Answer 3

Sister, NO, Let me eplain,, I don't know why you are not with your husband anymore, You probably had reasons to leave him just as long it is within the boundries of the scriptures, Yes the man is the head of the wife, But if that head can NOT respect you Then Christ is your head above all things, A husband that is all screwed up, & as I said, I have no ideal why you are not with him, that is between you & him & God. Was your husband a Christian & you did not believe his way, I don't know, But if the Husband is not a Christian, God does not expect a woman to be abused, the bible says if a unbeliever is pleased to dwell with you, do not put that unbeliver away, That is entirely different if he abused you, If a man wants to be the hEAD, then HE ALSO MUST SUBMIT TO HIS HEAD WHICH IS CHRIST, AS CHRIST SUBMITS TO HIS HEAD WHICH IS GOD. If a husband can not submit to his head, then he is wrong, If your husband is gone Christ is your head, a Woman can not submit to something that is contrary to bible, even if your husband want to be the head then he has to submit himself to Christ, Christ headship it over that of a man. Sister I hope this helps you, NO THE BODY OF CHRIST IS NOT MESS UP NOR IS IT SCREWED UP, The Body of Christ is in Perfect harmony with God. Christ will come for a people (BRIDE) (OR A PEOPLE THAT IS WITHOUT WRINKLE SPOT OR BLEMISH)

Answer 4

If your husband is no longer in your house then he is no longer head of your house. God the father was his head just move God into your husbands position, I'm sure he will be glad to fill it. Ephesians 5:22-33 talks about this If a man is not following the instruction of God then God also fills his space. It's like having a boss and a manager, God being the boss and your husband being the manager if the manager quits or gets fired who's in charge? The boss of course!

I hope I answered your question well and I pray that you are blessed for desiring to be faithful to the word of God. : )

Answer 5

Biblically the head of the household job must be done, and if the husband is lacking in this area , it is one that a woman can and should take over until such point as her husband learns from watching her do this.

In this way, the rest of the body (children) are not mislead and left without spiritual guidence. If you are no longer with your husband it is now totally up to you to provide for your households spiritual upbringing. Its a difficult job and can only be done with Gods guidance of yourself.

Answer 6

He is the head of the household as long as he is submitted to Christ's authority. If he goes off the deep end you are not forced to follow. You have to think about forgiving him when you realize that it does more harm than good to hold a grudge. Forgiving is not rationalizing or explaining away what he did. It's choosing to move on and not get focused on something, that from the eternal perspective is not that important. Pray for him to be restored to wholeness and that your marriage could also be renewed.

Answer 7

YOU DON'T... Let the bastard rot. Anyways you shouldn't give a ****. Worry about yourself and kids if you have them. Don't regret good decisions in the past to benefit your life. Forgiveness isn't going to come no matter how much you want because whatever action that has happened will not change. Just let go of the need to forgive him and don't give it anymore thought than necessary. Unless you want to forgive him then you will have to confront him. Even so it won't change much besides letting you get out what you think to be right.

Answer 8

I was married to a woman for 9 years when she left me for another man, after 7 years of infidelity. I was made the villain even though I remained faithful.

How could I ever forgive her, I can not, without God. Only putting it under the Blood of Jesus, gives me the ability to forgive, and let go. Today I have a wonderful wife who loves me and is devoted to me.

In retrospect, her leaving me was a good thing.

Answer 9

I'm not/never have been married, so take this with the grain of salt it is intended. But I think with time, and spiritual growth, if you want to you can forgive him. I don't know that it will or should happen in this life (meaning before you die), but maybe at some point throughout eternity.

Answer 10

No one should be the designated head of the household. Both heads work as a team. Sometimes the man should be subordinate to the wife, and vice versa.