Is she cheating?
2006-10-31 08:27:13 · 30 answers · asked by only p 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She says that she goes out with her girlfriends. I don't want to follow her or be creepy. I just want to know where I stand.
2006-10-31 08:31:35 · update #1
I don't know if she's cheating (yet) or not, but it doesn't sound like she respects you much if she just doesn't bother to come home.
If she had a high interest in you, she'd be wondering if you'd dump her for doing that. Sounds like you let things slide too far for them to be saved, but... (and prepare for a break-up here) you might try telling her how you feel if she isn't bothering to call or anything. Tell her you want to discuss things before it becomes a "trust issue".
I, personally, don't get jealous, and I'm not sure I am not reading too much into this (are there aother things that are setting off your internal radar?), but it sound like you are worried,and assuming you aren't incredibly insecure, these things usually turn out badly.
2006-10-31 08:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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You've been in a committed relationship for 3 years, and you haven't advanced to being engaged yet? uh, that's a problem for most women.
If she does not come home sometimes, there's a reason.
Whether she's cheating or not, what she certainly is doing is sending you a CLEAR message that she's tired of waiting for you to propose marriage.
It's time for you to decide if your relationship with her is all you really want, or would you rather be alone without her. Do you think you can ever find someone you would be more comfortable with?
Do you two have all the elements of a long lasting love? Do you understand and tolerate each others differences, and have fun together. Do you trust each other and respect each other. Do you both share and care in an equal and balanced way?
If you don't have all this, CAN you with a little work?
You need to ASK her the question, or
face the reality, you might lose her.
I wish you love
stw
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2006-10-31 08:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the sh*t. Either she is already cheating or she is sabotaging the relationship because she wants out, but does not want to be the one that does the breaking. Either way it is time to get out. Dump her before she dumps you. Believe me it is coming.
Also notice how a lot of women are answering that there must be another reason. That is a load of crap. I can't believe that women would defend such behavior as not coming home at all. If their boyfriends were not coming home at all they would be singing a different tune.
2006-10-31 08:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by jasonheavilin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't come home? When you live with someone you are obligated to do certain things like call when you are gonna be late. But to not come home at all. She would come home to a changed lock. If she is not cheating I would be curious to know what she is doing. Expect better of the person you choose to share a home with. If you didn't make it home would you still have one?
2006-10-31 08:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats something you have to handle your self and find out where the F shes stays at etc and with who. You should try not coming home a few times and if she doesnt say anything its probably cause she doesnt care and is cheating on you. hire a detective.
2006-10-31 08:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by CuriousJorge07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is a possibility. Have you talked to her about why she isn't coming home? What does she say? There is obviously something going on in the relationship. I don't know if it has advanced to cheating yet but it is definately something you will want to discuss.
2006-10-31 08:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily cheating, but at least tired of coming home to you. Time to pack your bags and hit the road. This is called, not working out. So, take a hike before she does cheat on you.
2006-10-31 08:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends,she going out w/ her girlfriends? Maybe it get too late & they don't want to drive back all drunk. So they stay closer to that friends house. Or is it rite after work ? No matter what excuse she has & does not want u 2 go & get her,she probably cheating.
2006-10-31 08:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by tony s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her where she is?? After 3 years of being together surely you two have some sort of communication. Ask her, If you dont believe her, ask her to call you, or let you know when she is going to be late... Its not like you are asking for a miracle...just a phone call to ease your mind.
2006-10-31 08:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one answer could be that her job is keeping her late. or she could be cheating on u. she's very stressed out. She could also be doing something behind your back but it may not nesacarily be cheating - maybe something like smoking (if she doesn't want you to see) or drinking alcohol or anything that has to do with her want for you not to see her doing.
2006-10-31 08:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Suburban chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋