I need other ppl's opinions cuz family and friends all say the same thing because they don't like my b/f. He is 28 and I am 19. He moved in with me after the first date because I needed a room mate and he was looking to move outta his mom's again. I thought he'd help with bills but he doesn't. He doesn't pay rent, pud, cable, food, and when we go on dates I pay, except once because I forgot my wallet. I even paid on my birthday. The only bill he has is a 150 truck payment and a 450 child support. Yes I make .50 more an hour then him and I work more hours but a little help would be nice. I even took a second job so we could start looking for a house. I don't know where his money goes except into beater up trucks!! I am lucky to go out with him one night a week when he's not busy. I do love him and he says he loves me and we talk about our future but I want someone to support me. He says he is looking for a new job but he's said that 5 months ago. Is he just a sponge or will it change??
2006-10-31 08:22:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE IS TOTALLY USING YOU, HE IS JUST A LAZY GUY THAT IS NOT RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO SUPPORT HIMSELF. YOU ARE YOUNG AND LIFE IS BARELY GETTING STARTED FOR YOU, YOU SHOULD FIND ANOTHER GUY THAT IS WORTH IT. BECAUSE THIS ONE ISN'T. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!
2006-10-31 08:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by D.L.G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are being used. BIG TIME! He is also a lot older guy than a lovely 19 yo girl should be going out with. You should be just dating & having fun, & exploring new relationships with different guys so you can find the right guy to settle down with. You are giving far more to this mooch than just money & lodging. He is robbing you of your youth.
He could be making a lot more money than you, & it wouldn't change a thing, & why should it? He doesn't have to contribute a thing to the household because that is the way you let it be.
You could be living on your own, alone & you would still come out ahead. So what did you need a roommate for anyway?
To sum it up he IS a SPONGE, & HE WON"T CHANGE.
2006-10-31 16:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you write this and NOT realize that he is using you> ANY GUY WHO MOOCHES FOR THAT LONG AND GETS AWAY WITH IT SHOULD BE SHOT! A partner is suppose to be 50/50. You should never have to pay for everything and NEITHER should he! I say tell him he has to move out! If he isnt helping he has to go, and if he starts then GREAT! BUT DONT BACK DOWN, He has to pay half the rent, half the food, half of EVERYTHING! If he cant afford it, then he needs to go. Tell him you want to stay together, but cant keep paying for him! He's got to move OUT asap!
2006-10-31 16:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He moved in with me after the first date because I needed a room mate"
Whats the point of having a roommate if he/she doesnt help with the bills?
He needs to go back to mommy, just because he is 28 doesnt mean he is mature enough to be in a live-in relationship. Mommy still needs to wipe behind his ears if he works and doesnt have anything to show for it. Forget the dates and such he needs to pay for the bills.
Sweety, side to say this, but your his Sugar Momma.
Kick him out.
2006-10-31 16:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your only 19 so thats a proble. second of all your a fool for paying for everything.Hes basically just using you. Hes not gonna change.if he didnt change when he was 19 what makes you think hell change now that hes 29 . Hes a bum, you dont need that. you need to get yourself someone who will value you and want to help you.
2006-10-31 16:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by CuriousJorge07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you, besides that most men don't like having their women support them-something is wrong w/ ur guy. Is it fair that you pay all the bills while he reeks the benefits-ur not his mom!! If he truly loves you he'll help.
2006-10-31 16:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a sponge. Find another roommate and kick him out. He is taking total advantage of you. Find someone better.
2006-10-31 16:30:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes just a sponge
2006-10-31 16:25:52 · answer #8 · answered by hombresteve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound like youre being used. i had a b/f somewhat like that but not that extreme and i couldnt take it. we lasted all of eight months before i broke up with him.
2006-10-31 16:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by sTaRgAzEr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, ditch him & find some-1 else. kick him out girl! You can do better.
2006-10-31 16:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋