We were brought up not to do things like drinking or doing drugs. But it seems that when my brother went to college (total freedom!) he was somewhat influenced by his friends. He knows I know and he said that he'll stop, but eventually i found out that he hasn't! I know the effects of alcohol. It's like i've ntoiced that he's continuing because his friends do and he'd feel left out if he didn't! ( I tried giving all my advice but he doesnt care!) I really want to help but don't know how cuz im really not close to my brother. Is there anything i can do to make him realise what he's doing is wrong? (by the way, my brother is 23 now!)
2006-10-31 08:19:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He knows he shouldn't and i have a feeling he's doing it to look cool! He knows that its against his religion and still he's still drinking! The thing is, he doesn't know what he's doing! I'd like to help out but he doesnt seem to get it! Everytime i tried to support him, he'd try to ignore me.
2006-10-31 08:30:58 · update #1
There's nothing you can do to get him to stop - only he can do that. Just be there for him if the bottom falls out on him before he matures. :)
2006-10-31 08:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can scream, yell and talk to him until your blue in face until her realizes he has a problem he's not going to do anything about.
My brother is an alcholic and a drug addict
I am in the same boat. My brother asked my last christmas what I wanted from him. I told him I wanted him to be happy and get clean so he can live his life out.
I found out the next day he put himself into detoxic and has turned his life around, although it is a struggle for him everyday. He knows what can happy if he falls off the train.
2006-10-31 16:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by dee luna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is an adult now and it will be hard to tell him that it isn't right. Peer pressure is really tough on someone. Just tell him your concerns and that you love him and hope he will be okay. Tell him that you look up to him and he is disappointing you. Most of all, support him. I know drinking can be bad. Just tell him not to drink and drive and be careful. Maybe he will come around.
2006-10-31 16:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how much he drinks. I mean he is only 23, He should drink. What happens if he doesn't get the partying in now, and he decides to go nuts at 35.
2006-10-31 16:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by crackerman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know where you're coming from. I have one who has been doing it for over 25 years, and he uses his ex-wife (who he has been divorced from since 1980) as a convenient excuse. He shuts the family out of his life, and doesn't want to hear about how we care about him. I know what I am about to say is painful, but you may just have to let him go, but, at the same time, always be there for if/when the time comes when he figures out that he needs your help. My prayers for both he and you. God's strength and blessing!
2006-10-31 17:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by rhino 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not a decision you can make for him. He has to make it on his own. I know how hard it is to sit back and watch believe me I do but you don't have another choice. He is a grown man and he will do what he wants until he is ready to stop. Just hang in there Hun.
2006-10-31 16:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's of age...leave him alone. He has the right to drink, get drunk, stupid, happy, hurt, beat up, where ever his experience takes him. It's up to him to make the decision to take it or leave it. If he turns into an alcoholic, it will be up to him to deal with that. Part of life's many tests.
2006-10-31 16:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by twostories 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats normal, when a guy goes to college hes gonna drink and you really cant stop him
2006-10-31 16:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by alessi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drinking is not wrong as long as he drinks responsibly.
2006-10-31 16:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
not really he'll have to learn on his own... just try and be there for him as much as possiable..
2006-10-31 16:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by juicy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋