How is sending your child to school supposed to help if kids in general have poor social skills?

Question

Anybody else pick up on that comment in one of the answers? The person put down homeschooling because kids won't learn social skills then talked about how kids in general today don't have good social skills.

If most kids go to public school and kids in general don't have good social skills, then how is sending your child to school with kids who have poor social skills supposed to be what you need to do? Since kids tend to learn what they live, aren't they more likely to pick up poor social skills?

Answer 1

It will help the spread of poor social skills so the standard of what is socially acceptable will be lowered to the point where we can all meet it.

Personally, I would like my children to be socialized (taught how to behave in a society) by mature responsible people in a natural setting.

Public education is the institutionalizing of children. They have their innate rights taken away from them in the name of conformity--it is easier to control large groups of kids when they all march to the beat of the public drum.

Answer 2

If it takes being around bad manners to learn to deal with bad manners then won't the bad manners become the norm?

So, if the whole social scene is full of bad manners then nobody should ever feel badly for behaving badly -- because after all if everyone behaves badly then isn't the playing field equalized? There we go --- nothing is bad anymore if everyone is doing it.

Poor social skills equals bad manners. That's what it is all about.

Someday a few people wake up and realize that there is a better way!!! Someday somebody will want to raise the standard and begin to promote good social skills and good manners. It takes someone to choose to make a difference in order to begin raising the standard.

Just a few thoughts.

Additionally: Most home-school children are not students of any public system They are not required to attend any type of charter-schools unless they are enrolled in a specific program.

Our children have never been "required" to do anything besides study at home. What most people do not realize is that it is NOT the gov't that should be making decisions for your family --- it is the parent's job.

The parents are the directors of where the family lives, what type of home we live in, what we eat, when we sleep, the type of clothes we wear, the books we read, the method of education that we have, where and if we go to church, where we shop, etc... --- of course families that work together and are cooperative in the decision making process do well in the long run.

Most things that we do are not in need of government intervention. Few things need to be ruled over by the government if the people are self-managed. Self-control and good manners do not need to be dictated. The gov't comes in handy for those with lack of self-control and bad manners ---- crime and punishment, law, emergency services, roads, etc... is the realm of gov't.

If people choose to get together and pay a teacher through their taxes -- go for it. BUT it is nobody's obligation to send their own child there unless they want to.

Home-schools are a very good opportunity for students to learn to excel in all areas of academics. The family is the best place to strengthen social contacts and activities.

Answer 3

How true. For my whole life I have been almost entirely home schooled, and I thank God ( literally, this isn't just a saying lol =D)That I was so fortunate to be born in such I wonderful family, who home schooled me & give me such a variety of things to do in my life! My childhood was absolutly beautiful, spent in such places as Indonesia, Mexico, Russia, Spian, Cuba, etc. And meeting all kinds of people and learning 5 different languages and learning about many different cultures & religions ! & all at this wonderfull time I was learning very much needed social skills.( & of corse a whole lot more!!) & do you know what whould have happend to me if I hand't be home schooled? I would be an "Special Ed"( as I have several ""learning disabllties "") Learning just about nothing for 8 a hours day! Yuck how horried!!

Answer 4

Parents teach their kids social skills. It starts even before they go to school. Nobody can generalize a particular group; public educated or home schooled. Every kid is unique and it's not right to judge them or their education based on a closed minded outlook.

Answer 5

i think that children who are home schooled probably ARE better mannered, and less subjected to bad influences than kids in public school.
however, i assume comments about poor socialization are addressing being able to deal with people who may not be as lucky as you/your kids are. most people aren't homeschooled, and kids are going to have to deal with them in college, in bosses, and in coworkers.
people learn to adapt more easily when they are young. kids need to be exposed to the general mess of the masses while their main influence is still their parents.
i'll probably get blasted for saying everything i just did, but most people don't have parents that care they way people here do, and kids need to learn to deal with those people just as much as they need to be well mannered/socialized.

Answer 6

It might not be the social skills but rather the exposure to diffrent people.
I always fear what its like to be home schooled and around family /home forever, then just be thrown in a college dorm with diffrent people who have entirely diffrent standards than you. I guess a myriad of camp / trips / scouts/ play mates can help, but I dont see how they substitute.
Some parents do it because they want smart kids who do great things, so do it because they dont like the influence and live in fear. That scares me.

I had a practical breakdown of self in college when I was around so much for the first time. I cant even list them all but I had to see a psychologist on campus because I could not cope.

but hell, that's just me I guess....

Answer 7

that person is just ignorant. ther are programs where home schooled kids still have to attend a "charter school" 2-3 times a week and it is a class size of 10-25 kids. they can also still do activities that their local school offers like, band and sports. that how the HSA (home school association) provides ways to actively socialize your kids. also, they can put them in activities at their local rec centers. that provides social interaction with their peers.

Answer 8

Sounds about right to me. Why would I be trying to raise well mannered, well behaved, socially rounded children and send them into the lion's den of cursing and wearing their pants around their knees?

Answer 9

because of the social exposure that they gain will help them cope nad interact successfully in the world from here on out