I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years this weekend. I feel I was the right thing to do, but I still feel very low.
2006-10-31 08:16:48 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel for you! I broke up with my boyfriend of three years about a year ago. It took me about six months to get over it, but I didn't really feel ready to date again until now. Give yourself time. It gets better every day. Right now, concentrate on going out with your friends, picking up a new hobby, and basically getting out of the house. It will make it hurt less if you don't mope around. Hang in there! It gets better!
2006-10-31 08:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that initially all your consciousness would let you think about was what a failure you were, how could anyone ever replace them, what a waste the previous time had been, what does the future hold, etc etc. In short everything negative. However, slowly but surely your consciousness will allow you to remember the arguments, the bad behaviour, the differences between you and eventually you'll find the confidence and the desire to find someone else. Once that relationship goes far enough for you to feel that there is another person that finds you attractive the inferior relationship you used to have becomes perfectly evident. It's just a shame we have to go through the grieving process to get there
2006-10-31 08:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. 3 years is a long time, so it's going to take a while (hopefully that is tempered by the relief over being free of what was bothering you ... somewhat).
Don't call him, etc. No communication. Keep busy, do stuff you like to do, spend time with family and friends, and one day you'll wonder why you felt like this, and then... maybe you can meet somebody even better.
A word of caution on rebound relationships--it's alright to talk to guys when you are feeling this way (in fact, that's a good thing), but don't dive into another serious relationship or you'll learn another painful lesson.
2006-10-31 08:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the all knowing ladies of Sex and the City, it takes exactly half the time you were with the guy! i think a trully broken heart never mends, it adapts! Be strong, it may feel like the end of the world but if you allow yourself to experience the emotions and roller coaster of the breakup, you will find it is better than denying it all.
2006-10-31 09:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Chaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm for me it has been for about 10 months and I am still heart broken. But he took my v card so I think that is why i loved him so much. And he had a girlfriend at the time, but we acted like we were dating for atleast 3 months, then he broke up with his gf for me and the next day I started to date his best friend. But they are going back out and they have been dating for 2 years. I made a terrible mistake. Just try to find someone else. It reallllly helps if you find someone else who you have feelings for. It realllly helps you get over that one person a little bit
2016-05-22 19:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take your heart a little while to get over the break up but if you really feel that it was the right thing to do then time will pass quickly and you will start feeling better about it within a few days if not maybe you should rethink the reason you broke it off
2006-10-31 08:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by just4me1165 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time frame, but rather than sit and sulk you need to start living your life! The busier you make yourself the less you will find yourself thinking about him. You need to look at the breakup in a positive way, you are single and strong and most of all free to find someone that is really meant for you.
2006-10-31 08:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Pirate Hooker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rosa, put on timeline on this. Time heals all wounds, so give yourself plenty of it. It's always natural to feel the way you do, it truely shows how much you cared for that person. One day you will awaken and find you have put this all behind you. I would suggest you do things to keep yourself busier than usual. Best wishes.
2006-10-31 08:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blimey...i broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half...i knew and know it was the right thing to do...it has been 5 months and i still feel down....it will happen in time!!!
And you will find someone new. x
2006-10-31 11:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by hunybuny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday you will start to feel a bit better. Have a good cry and if it was the right thing to do then you will feel okay soon. You will have up and down moments but you will survive..
2006-10-31 08:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋