What kind of parent are you when it comes to handling disobedience. Do you give your child three chances to stop their misbehavior, or do you demand your child listen to you on the first time, or something else?
Me, My child MUST listen on the first time, if not, they immediately go to timeout. I just don't see what purpose counting to three does, other than teach your child to ignore you for a little while longer.
2006-10-31 08:07:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
A child needs to learn that certain actions have consequences. immediate consequences. A toddler does not understand negotiation, so the three strikes rule only means that they learn they can do something bad three times before they have an adverse outcome. A child of that age only understands concrete things, like if i do this, mommy/daddy will do this, and I won't like it.
However, some allowance needs to be made to the seriousness of the offense, and the abilities of the individual child. If the child is reaching for the stove, a warning of "no", once should be enough. risking waiting three times is just foolhardy. If the child is taking toys from another child, changing this behaviour may take longer, depending on how well developed the toddler's sense of empathy has become. Not every child develops at the same pace, and the kid has to learn that the short term benefit of getting what you want, is not worth the punishment he/she would eventually get. If the child is hitting or injuring another child, then an immediate time out gets the message that this is not acceptable behaviour, no matter what the provocation.
2006-10-31 08:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by phantomlimb7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your child is running toward the street directly into the path of a bus will he have the time for you to tell him to stop 2 or 3 times?
Your child should listen the first time...it may save him one day.
2006-10-31 08:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, the slow counting seems more like 3 chances to do what they are told, but usually teaches the child that your apprehensive about punishment.
I heard about a mother who always used this method. Her child was running in a store and the mother was instructing the child to stop, and proceeded her futile 123 method, before number 2 the child ran into a display rack with prongs, and jabbed out the toddler's eye.
I'm all about the swift thigh smack. His butt and pride are hurt, but he'll have two eyes as long as I can help it!
2006-10-31 08:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would give my child 2 chances. But when it comes to something dangerous like touching a hot stove, or sticking something in an electrical socket; if I tell you once and you do it again, there won't be any talking. It's better to whoop'em at home than to be questioned by a social worker in the ER.
2006-10-31 08:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by not2nite 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it all depends on what they are doing / how old the child is. My youngest is 4 and I usually only have to look at him or say, you know better than that...and that is it. If he does it again, I just say J*****, you know better, now go to the corner. But, no I don't count to three.
2006-10-31 09:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understood why parents gave their kids more than one chance. That just teaches them not to listen the first time. What's the point of telling them at all? I DO NOT repeat myself!
2006-10-31 08:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it varies with the age of the child and what they did wrong. i have 2 2 year old little girls (they're stepsisters, not twins). if they do something that they KNOW is wrong, they automatically get a pop on the butt. anything else, first time is verbal, second time gets a pop on the hand, third time gets a pop on the butt. they're not at an age right now where time out is effective. it's never enough to physically hurt them, it just makes them cry because it hurts their feelings.
2006-10-31 08:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Counting, i agree, does NO good, they just go off while you count and ignore you. Me, its simple, "I said to put that away, you don't, I'll take it from you and you won't see it for a long time." just an example, I do agree a good swat, but nothing hard like using a hairbrush on a kids butt, thats boarderline abuse.
2006-10-31 08:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Crazy 4 Cats! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2016-05-22 19:32:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think parents think they're giving their kids a "second"chance but it's teaching them that they have a minute.I ask that my kids listen the first time and in a timely manner.I don't think it's too much to ask.
2006-10-31 08:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋