just ended a 3 year relationship on bad terms
2006-10-31 07:58:33 · 16 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say it but for a while you are probably not going to feel so good. And that is normal, you should get it out because what you are probably afraid of the most is that your life is going to change without her there, whether it be good or bad it is going to change. I know that it could be scary. Almost 2 years ago I ended a relationship of 12 years and when it first happened I was devastated and really scared to be on my own.
But just keep thinking to yourself, that a change might be a good thing and that you are exs for a reason. Just think of all the new possibilities you have now and how exciting it will be to start over. That's what I did and I am now in a new relationship for about a year and a half with a man I really love. I am happier and feel better about myself than I ever did before.
It might seem like the end right now, but believe me it is only the beginning.
2006-10-31 08:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing 3.5 yrs ago. It was horrible mainly because of all the memories that cling around for so long. But honestly the only thing that did help was going out with friends. Go do things you don't normally do but are curious about. Go to the club if you like that; it'll distract you. Be more sociable if you aren't already. My true solution was date others, I ended up with someone for 3 more yrs:) And I'm happy.
I'm not a professional or even close but I did experience it.
2006-10-31 16:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by GG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may take awhile, but you'll eventually feel better. You must be good to yourself and take steps to do what is in your best interest. It helps me to get rid of (or store somewhere) any items that remind me of a former flame...it's hard enough to deal with what's in your head. You don't reminders, such as photographs, momentos, keepsakes, etc. of what you've lost. Get over the guilt, and focus on yourself. Find something that you enjoy to occupy your time...take a class, participate in a sport, pick up a craft, anything that will get your mind off your current situation. And try to heal before plunging back into the dating world, or you'll find yourself wishing every person you date was your former flame. There's only so much you can do....so be patient. You'll spring back in no time. good luck
2006-10-31 16:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feeling better after a breakup is not always easy. It's okay to be broken hearted for a little while and then remind yourself of what a great person you are and someone new will benefit from that now, and not your ex! Go out with some friends and have a good time doing something you love to do.
2006-10-31 16:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sry, bout your bad break-up, I went through one, too, and the only advice I can give you is try not to think too much about it or you'll end up really depressed and that ain't good. Go back and try to figure it out and if you guys don't get back together then just be friends. Things have a really funny way of workin out!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-10-31 16:08:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's really sad you poor thing wow your gf must have been really wrong to you. You know what you should just 4get about her she's the 1 that hurt you. And plus there are always more fish in the sea. Look at it this way it's her lose right , and there's always something out there better.
2006-10-31 16:05:35 · answer #6 · answered by pink girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its been that long....wow!!! Its not gonna be easy.. I just ended a almost 6yr relationship and i have a child involved.. its gonna take some time.. ur heart has to take time in healing.. Im gonna tell u to please dont go running to someone else as a rebound from this cause then u will regret it.. been thier done that.. dont do it
2006-10-31 16:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya. I got out of a 7yr almost 2 years ago and it still stings.
Do things for yourself that are healthy and fun that you may have never had time to do. SPend time with friends, travel, take time to heal, take time for yourself.
You'll be fine. Therapy helps. You'll make it.
2006-10-31 16:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by aquarian77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back and make up to be friends. You should never get angry when you end a relationship. It is your better side that will prevail.
2006-10-31 16:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to be around people, family and friends that will support you. The worst thing you can do is to isolate yourself. Hang in there and have faith !!!!
2006-10-31 16:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by oceanic813 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋