Sorry if this is an old question but.....I'm a good girl... seriously honest.... truly a bit lonely, jut want to be loved.... i know i can go out and pull if i want to for certain....... but i have a habit of sleeping with men on the first date (or even the first night to be honest.. and reportedly i'm not half bad, slightly addicted to random sex, despite the fact it sounds so bad! Sorry).... most of them materialise again for a few more dates (often ending with much of the same antics).... and then they act cool or disappear off the planet. Now honestly, should i stop giving out at the first hudle? Gain some mystery? Is this truly the problem? I'm looking for someone to settle down with for the winter - am i going about it the wrong way? Time to get my chastity belt out? Fill me in people.... (excuse the pun.... awful sorry!)
2006-10-31 07:56:55 · 18 answers · asked by TAMSIN25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think there are two issues there, you say you are lonely and want to be loved, well I cant imagine you feeling any less lonely and more loved after a one night stand and one or two dates. Obviously you need to look for someone more substantial to fill that void. To find someone more substantial you will need to get past the guys who are just interested in a quick night of fun - by not giving it out. If a guy sticks around long enough to show you hes actually interested in more than just sex you cant just go giving it out every night. Wait a few dates and see what kind of guys you attract differently.
2006-10-31 08:01:19 · answer #1 · answered by radiancia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you can't be a good girl if you sleep with random guys after meeting them the same night or next night. You really should stop that for a number of reasons. Risky behavior leads to the spread of disease and death.
Once you have sex, there's nothing else to find out. The mystery and fascination is gone. The chase is over. They won the prize without even playing the game. Don't have sex with another guy unless something serious materializes after at least 3 months. Keep it locked up for a while. You need to take a break.
2006-10-31 08:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I always say don't do it! However, I did it with the last guy and we are getting married now. I think the difference is that we were both ready for each other. The whole mystery thing is good but it depends on what you want. You sound like you don't want just random sex anymore. You sound like you want a real relationship. You need to know about the guy before you decide that. One way to have a really bad relationship is to jump into it with someone you know nothing about and then you find out he's not at all what you wanted. Meet someone that you like enough to have sex with but not enough to make you jump him right away. That way you can take your time to get to know him and really find out if you are going to make it in the long haul. My current guy is half nerd and half gorgeous....and dynamite comes in brown wrapping sometimes (if you get what I'm sayin' here..lol)
good luck!
2006-10-31 08:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by KK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their reason's for sleeping with someone on the first date, but you come accross as being easy and not a challenge. Just like women like a good challenge, men do too! if you want to settle down this winter, the next guy you go on a date with DON'T sleep with him right away. He'll respect you alot more if you don't jump into bed with him that first night. You really should gain more mystery. I wouldn't say it's chastity belt time, but it's def. time you think before you leap.
2006-10-31 08:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Vicey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all you are too easy. The reason the guys come back is for the sex, and they leave because they don't respect you. But, how can you blame them, you don't respect yourself. You know, you are going to get older and you can't act like this forever. Well, not if you plan to have a normal family life someday. Have you ever heard the expression, " YOU CAN'T MAKE A HO A HOUSEWIFE"? Well, it is sooo true. You are good enough to nail, but not good enough to be seen with. If that is what makes you happy then hey, that's your perogative. It will lead to a lonely life. Plus, aren't you afraid of getting an STD? Condoms don't keep you totally safe!
2006-10-31 08:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guys will like you if you sleep with them on the first date, but not for the right reasons. Sorry, guys just don't take a woman serious that does that. Basically there are two type of women. Dating material, and marriage material. Sleeping with them on the first date and you'll be in the dating material category.
2006-10-31 08:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by bigbadwolf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys want a girl who is hard to get. They might sleep with you, but if you are not the girl they would show to thier mother, than you are not going to be getting a house key. A man wants a lady in parlor and whore in the bedroom. Make sure you are both and should be fine. But no man wants someone that they think others could get.
2006-10-31 08:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to chill and stop giving it away! At least wait for 3 dates, cause you know within 3 dates weather or not this is going to be a long term thing or not.
2006-10-31 08:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should save your Sorrys for God and for your body that you abused through random sex.
Wrong...you shouldn't sleep with a man on first date.
I used to think women give sex to get love, but it doesn't work on first date.
Why does he give you love after he gets his needs? You are already being cheap by sleeping randomly.
To get a love, if that is what you are looking for , you need to have some descipline and self control and be able to be content with one person.
Honestly including me and almost all guys, no one wants to date a "slut" for love.
2006-10-31 08:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
jeez where are you...nah j/k but anyway... yeah try and hold out for once... dont make it too easy for us cus then we're like oohhh ty mam.. now I 'll be on my way!! so see if you can hold the urge in find out if the guy likes you for you and is willing to be with you as a bf... not just for the sex!! unless its awesome!!
2006-10-31 08:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋