If you have done please tell me what happened...
2006-10-31 07:50:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should tell him even if it means losing him. I was in your situation and it hurts like hell and it hurts even more that you aren't honest. If even after you did that you really care for him you should tell him. It'll def. hurt him, but at least it will be out in the open rather than you holding it inside and always having that guilt which can later affect your relationship. It will be painful at first, but if nothing else maybe he can forgive you and you two can at least still be really good friends. Especially if you two had a good and solid bond before this happened.
If you are truly sorry for your actions and sincere about it, he'll know. Things will work out they way they should in the end. You will have to learn to be patient and let time heal any wounds
2006-10-31 07:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u say cheated i think it depends on what you did first and foremost. I for example cheated on my girlfriend and didnt tell her. I didnt have sex with the girl, but it was enough to really hurt her. yea she found out. thought she would not though. Fortunately she didnt go, even though i thought she would because till this day she still mentions it. Point of the story, you can't hide anything forever. But you can try i guess, and you situation and you will know whether you should tell or not. And, ask yourself, would you do it again?
2006-10-31 07:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were worried about losing him you shouldn't have cheated on him. You should tell him the truth, maybe he will actually stick around. But if he finds out down the line that is going to be way worse, for both of you. Do the right thing.
2006-10-31 07:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Joe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you cheated, if you kissed another guy and it was a one off and you know that it will never happen again, Then there is no point telling your bf, as it will only hurt him and ruin your relationship.
If you have been sleeping with another man, then i think you should tell your bf because this is totally wrong, you have been letting another man have what is meant to be his! You shouldnt cheat on your bf at all, unless he is ok with it, or the relationship is on the verge of ending!
2006-10-31 08:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't live a lie. How would you feel if he had done the same thing to you. I had sex with another guy while away at college. I told him and he did really didn't respond for about a year. It finally blew up, but we got over it. We are not together anymore but time does heal all wounds and he has never brought it to my attention but he trusted me because I came at him like a woman and took responsibility for my actions.
You may lose him but what is more important...
2006-10-31 07:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by t j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. Remember the saying what goes around comes around. The truth will come out eventually. Better to be up front and deal with the consequences now. It's only fair to your guy. That's the chance you took when you cheated. Hopefully you will work it out but if not what's meant to be is meant to be. If he doesn't understand at first maybe with time he'll be back.
2006-10-31 07:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm - I didnt. I have to live what that forever. I shouldnt have done it in the first place. I was trying to break up with and he wouldnt let go. So I did what I wanted to instead. You should totally remove yourself from a relationship before considering another.
2006-10-31 07:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to say yeah i cheated on some one once and i felt so horrible the next day i told him if you tell him you might lose him but if you dont tell him and he finds out a few months latter your deffenitly going to lose him tell him what happened and that your willing to do what ever it takes to make it work and to show him that he can trust you again it's all you can do
2006-10-31 07:56:56 · answer #8 · answered by Ralina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Truth Will Set You Free.
2006-10-31 07:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by abbylove123186 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not tell him. In my case it would not be necessary. I would not cheat. If I were unhappy and looking to date others, I would break up first.
You betrayed the most basic of all trust in a relationship. If he dumps you....you have no one else to blame.
2006-10-31 07:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋