I cheated. How can I regain his trust...?

Question

I cheated on my boyfriend and feel horrible in doing so. He is my love and because I was getting some attention for someone I did something deceitful. Not only did I cheat I lied to him about where I was and who I was with. The guilt of cheating and lying to the man I love was eating me up inside and I finally told him. We are on speaking terms now, but I know for a long time there will be a trust issue and I'm willing to wait and work on rebuilding his trust. I now realize that he was the best man for me and I love him so much. The thought of not having him in my life kills me inside. The fact that I hurt him and ruined his future plans kills me. I will never put any man before him again. I want to show and prove to him that this was a mistake and that this or any other violation of our relationship (if we were to ever get back together) will not happen again. Advice please. Thanks

Answer 1

Listen sweetie. I know it was so hard telling the one you loved that you cheated on him, but at least you did tell him. There are plenty girls who still have the guilt eating them up inside. As for regaining his trust, do EVERYTHING and ANYTHING you can to let him know you are now faithful. I don't know what that is but just let him know you are a changed girl and that you will never do it anymore. I think he may respect you a little bit after you came out and told him what the deal was, with you cheating and everything. Just let him know you love him so much and that you will do anything to get things back the way they were. It may take a couple weeks or a couple months. But as long as you want things to work, it shouldn't matter.

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Answer 2

The only way to regain a person's trust is to be honest and live a life without deception. It takes a lot of time. Sometimes you'll think things are back to how they used to be and something will happen so you are reminded of what happened. Show him what you wrote. It's beautiful and maybe...just maybe it will help. Just remember how you feel now before taking him for granted again;)
Also, if you slept with the other person, for your sake and his, please go get tested for STDs...it may help you both feel at least better about being intimate.

Answer 3

Your first mistake of course was to cheat - your second (and even bigger) mistake was to lie to your man about it. You are working on mistake #3 if you think you can get back together with your man. I wouldn't even be talking to you unless it was to call you a lying wh0re.
Here you want forgiveness...how would you be feeling if your man cheated on you? Would you forgive him? I doubt it.
You have violated the basic foundation of any relationship which is trust. I really don't think things will ever be back to any sort of "normal". It will always be an impediment to a deeper love, committment etc. and it will always be in your man's mind even if he never brings it up.

I guess I'd move on - if your man is smart this relationship is over. Now go and sin no more OK?

Answer 4

You will never regain 100% trust ever again unfortunately. Once you did that, it is permanently in his head. The only way to regain 100% trust is to have a witch doctor brainwash him into forgetting about it all. And that's not gonna happen.

Time heals all wounds. remember that. Other than time, nothing is gonna help really.

Answer 5

It would be best to move on... Things will never be the same... The two of you can never regain what you had prior to this... There will always be that doubt tucked away in the back of his mind... and you will always feel like you have to prove everything you do or say... it's not a good way to live... It's not fair to you or him... Sometimes it takes things like this to happen so we can learn what really matters in our lives and the respect we should have for the ones we in-trust our love to...

Answer 6

It will take a long time to regain his trust back. Just make sure that he knows that he is now the only man in your life, and that you will do anything to make sure he knows this. This will take a lot of sacrifice on your part, but you sound as though you're ready to do it. Good luck and God bless in your time of need.

Answer 7

You have been seeing the same guy for a while now. As far as you can tell things are just lovely between the two of you. He calls you up and tells you, he needs to see you, because it is very important.

You begin to think, what he could he possibly want to talk to me about that is so important. Maybe he is ready to take it to the next level. Could he be ready to make a real commitment?

The two of you meet and he tells you he loves you. But, he needs some time to himself to think things over. It's not you, he tries to explain, but you do not want to hear it. The only thing you can think about is, what in the world just happened?

On your way home you are thinking, how can I get my ex boyfriend back?

First, ask yourself this question. Do I really want him back? This is something you must think long and hard about. Deep down inside you want him, but are you really sure?

Take some serious time to think about it. You need to have an clear mind in order to make the right decision.

After you have thought about it and you have decided to fight to keep your man. Take it one step at a time. Ease up and put yourself first, because he is the one who broke up with you. It is not going to be easy, but with the right frame of mind, you can do it.

Here is the way you handle the situation:

1. Do not call him
2. Do not text him
3. Do not try to contact him through his friends or family
4. Do not give him any special treatment



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Answer 8

What women want, us men best be trying to find out if we expect to remain in a meaningful relationship with em. If you want to know how to get your girlfriend back the right way just keep on reading, you may be in for a bit of a surprise. The first thing were going to explain is what not to do, I think that's just as important as knowing the right thing to do.

What not to do

1. Never ever point the finger at her even if you are right, that only antagonizes her and makes her feel like she is not appreciated, a big no no.

2. By all means don't make her feel uncomfortable, women do not like tenseful situations, you'll find her trying to get a way from you quicker'n June bug in January.

3. And definitely don't be the cause of her stress level rising, you don't want to be associated with that never ending headache every time she sees you.

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Answer 9

Would you trust him if HE cheated on you? I doubt it...so what makes you think he should give that privelege. Funny how women hope to get the trust back of their men...and I'm sure he will because he loves you, but if a guy does it and tries to apologize we never get the benefit of the doubt! Good luck!

Answer 10

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