I miscarried nearly 4 years ago. My child would have been 3 In November. I thought I'd gotten over everything but today at work I started crying when I thought of how old my child would have been. If I had that child, I would not have had my daughter, so I know there was a reason for the miscarriage. Has anyone else ever felt like this years after a miscarriage.
2006-10-31 07:41:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes! I know how you feel. It is very difficult to deal with having a miscarriage. I think anytime holidays come around it is harder. I find myself dreaming about the child I miscarried.
It is a tramatic experience, and you will be reminded of it often throughout your life. I always tell myself that God had other plans for me and that child. You will never understand why it happened, you just need to understand that there was a reason! I'm sorry you are going through this. I can tell you, the more time that passes, the easier it becomes. Mine was 17 years ago.
2006-10-31 07:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I feel like that all the time. I remember the day I had the miscarriages the due date. The baby that I lost was due in November also the baby would of been 7. I cry too thinking about. Its bittersweet because I have a son that will be 4 in November so my emotions go hay wire because I am happy and sad at the same time.That was the 1st of seven miscarriages and I still remember everyone.
2006-10-31 16:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i still feel that way too. I had 2 miscarriages in 2003 and every time the day I had the m/c comes around, or my due date from either of those times it's hard. I have 3 healthy wonderful kids now, but it's still hard to think about what you lost. My baby would have been 3 in November too. And I understand the feeling of knowing that you're life is good now, but you'll never forget that other child, it was a part of you.
2006-10-31 15:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Mandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely.. I am very sorry for your loss. You will never actually recover from it, but it will get easier as time goes on. I had two, one was a medical abortion to save my life and the second was a natural miscarriage... and I still today think about those two. I found out when I was pregnant with my son that I could have saved both babies, by taking 1 baby aspirin a day. That's hard but, it does get easier with time. I do think sometimes about what those two would have been like, but I know I can't think of what might have been... at least now I know what is wrong and I have a beautiful little boy :)
2006-10-31 15:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by katjha2005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true any miscarriage is hard to deal with. I had four miscarraiges before my first son was born. Some times things do happen for a reason. Just enjoy the child you have now and try not to dwell on the past. I find its easier to think aboutth efuture and what exciting things and adventures I will have now with my new family.
Take care and be strong.
2006-10-31 15:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by single_parent&loveit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i can sympathise with you on this one. I lost my son just over 13yrs ago now and i still think about him. But like you say if you would have had your child you wouldnt have got your daughter. That is the same with me if i didnt have miscarried i wouldnt have had my 11yr old son. They say that things happen for a reason, and this is how i cope with it. It will get better but you will never really get over the loss of your child. xxx
2006-10-31 15:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by spensmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to remember wat might have been, but you are right to think about what is. I have had two miscarrages, just after I had my two girls, they are 4 and 5. When I was younger I always wanted two girls and a boy, will Now I am 27 weeks pregnant with a boy. Everything happens for a reason and I am greatful for what I have. Sounds like you are to. It is normal to think of the past, and crying is a fine way to greive. and greiving is a human thing. Just remember what is, and everything will be fine. congrats on the daughter you have.
2006-10-31 15:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had a miscarriage & then the same year, well at the end of the year Christmas Day I had my son, you can not help but to count the years. It was an Angel birthed before your blessing! Take care.......
2006-10-31 16:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by Lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had one about 5 years ago and it was awfull i went into a depression and I also had another 2 years ago it was a tuble and I thought I wounld never have a child but I thank God evevryday I have a daughter who is now 7months and I love her to death yes I know god does things for reasons and he would not give us thing we can not handle So congrats on having your daughter
2006-10-31 15:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Desi & Dani's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. I have 3 beautiful children but I still wonder what the baby would have looked like, acted like, if he could have changed the future for the better. It is normal and you will never get over it like most people think. Becuase the baby was part of you so it will always be special. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-10-31 15:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by First L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋