In my relationship, I can say I put in a lot more effort than she does. I plan all our date, I pay for most everything, I spend lots of time with her even though I'm super busy, I'm also the first one to ask for forgiveness, and the list goes on and on.
So the things is that I'm a computer science student that's close to graduation. So I have lots of things on my mind, which also includes trying to keep my girlfriend happy. So maybe about once a month, I might forget to keep a promise on something. And when I talk about small, I'm talking about maybe being unable to save her a computer, or being unable to take her somewhere because I had a test or my boss assigned me to work. But she gets angry at me for accidents, or things that are not in my control. I feel she has a real easy time to remember the small bad things rather than the small good thing. Now she says she can't trust me, cause of the 10% of times I mess up. Is this fair?
2006-10-31 07:37:35 · 14 answers · asked by John K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure do. I'm in a similar situation. I just graduated, I work, etc....
We had an argument because I bought him dinner & didn't bring a drink! Because I just don't listen :-(
Personally, I think our mates have too much time on their hands & are insecure with that fact that we are making moves baby!
I'm hanging in there for the meantime, but I have a feeling I'm going to get bored with this. You probably will too.
2006-10-31 07:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man that's just how females are, deal with it. It's not "fair" but ain't going to change either. Its really about how you respond when she accuses you of messing up. If you just accept it then things will probably be better but if you're like "but i always do this that and the other" she really not going to respond well to your complaining. Be a man suck it up, the truth is real love is sacrifice you seem to be doing that and she'll eventually also.
2006-10-31 07:48:15 · answer #2 · answered by Almack 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
yeah I have the same thing, its like there's a different set of rules for her and for me. She can do something wrong and when I bring it up i'm victimising her and making her feel like **** but when I do it to her im the biggest ******* jerk going. I love my girlfriend a lot but man she is so sensitive atm its like walking on egg shells and I too find myself asking for forgiveness when I don't really do anything wrong
2013-12-19 08:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
ditch her. You sound like a GREAT boyfriend to me. Either she is treating you like this cos she doesn't care about you that much, or she's just gonna be like that no matter who she is with. Regardless, sounds like you deserve better. You shouldn't have to be trying to "Keep her happy". Fair enough if you stuff up proper, but none of those seem like a big deal to me. sounds like a very unfair relationship.
2006-10-31 07:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
its time to look for someone who appreciates you. if you are as great as u say , then there should be no problem. if you are over exaggeration on how good u r u deserve a lot worst. remember you should get what you give in a relationship
2006-10-31 07:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by inna357 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend stays angry at me all the time always yells at me for simple to no reasons at all...blames all her life problems on me and when we have a disagreement she screams at me get the **** out of here pack your crap and leave is what I put up with so you think you got it bad
2014-12-21 02:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame is all I can say. I know that my man would have kicked my *** so hard I wouldn't even know!!!! hahaha. You must maybe sit down with her and speak to her about it. You never know she might be under allot of stress and does not know how to deal with it. Sometimes girls do funny things when they don't know how to deal with their own thoughts and feelings!!!
Hope it works out for you.
2006-10-31 07:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Alida M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no its not fair . i think you need to sit her down and tell her you love her and just tell her your really busy
2006-10-31 07:44:12 · answer #8 · answered by annamariecreed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter which "girl/wife" you have, they're still gonna' do the same thing sooner or later. either learn to live with it or contact your congressman about putting a bounty on them. there already would be one if it weren't for one thing...
2006-10-31 07:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, I probably would be upset too if I was dating someone and he forgot to take me somewhere or broke a promise! Women want to feel like we're #1 in your life, and we want to feel special. Next time it happens, just apologize (and mean it) and remind her how important she is to you.
2006-10-31 07:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 0⤊ 10⤋