Nothing happens apart from talking on msn but the flattery of compliments is very nice to hear. My fiancee is wonderful and I have many a time spoken to him to express his feelings for me...but he is naturally shy....but he says when I ask that he is very very attracted to me....so is what I am doing wrong?
2006-10-31 07:32:54 · 16 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not doing anything wrong - you said it, he is just shy. As to going on msn and flirting without him knowing, that is being extremely deceitful. How do you think he is going to react when he finally finds out. He will be extremely hurt and I wouldn't blame him if he dumped you. You must be mad to jeapordise a happy relationship in this way. Or are you hoping to be found out because you are not so happy as you make out? Sorry to be so blunt but it just makes no sense to me as to what you are doing - playing a very dangerous game. You wouldn't be asking this question anyway unless you thought it was wrong and are just seeking reassurance.
2006-10-31 07:40:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like you're happy with him. If you were, you wouldn't find it necessary to flirt and get attention from other men. You need to do some soul searching and ask yourself if he is what you really want or if you are still looking for something that's obviously missing. It sounds like you either need or want the flattery all the time and your fiancee doesn't give that to you. You will always want/need it and seek it from other people if he doesn't give it to you.
It's emotional cheating.
2006-10-31 15:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by eehco 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid this would be interpreted as being emotionally unfaithful......if it is done in secret. Why secret? Would he be upset and you know it if you told him. Then surely that answers the question. Trust is the thing everything else hangs from and if that is missing or breeched then love becomes a spent force......so do you really need this sort of ego massage.....if so are you really so very happy and content in the relationship. Lokk inside yourself and be honest about waht you find there. All the best.
2006-10-31 15:50:33 · answer #3 · answered by evergreen 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is wrong, there is no harm in paying someone compliments, it is strictly not classed as cheating, it is a good deed if you can make someone happy and smile by making their day and flirting, it is not as if you are face to face to them. I am in the same situation as you but i am a bloke. I think it is fine (what is your msn address, i need to flirt). You have fun and it is fine
2006-10-31 15:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Iknow how it feels to still want to hear comments like "damn you look good" ect. even when you HAVE a boyfriend/fiancee... and you are probably just a natural flirt. If it isn't anything that you wouldn't let your fiancee hear you say to one of your guy friends, then you are doing nothing wrong
2006-10-31 15:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by chelsea 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people have hard time expressing their feelings but I would say if your engaged its about time he learns how. Its nothing you did wrong it sounds like his issues.
I don't think there is anything wrong w/flirting as long as you don't act on it. If I didn't flirt w other ppl I think I would go insane. think of it as stress relief its fun lol
2006-10-31 15:36:35 · answer #6 · answered by BabyBella 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as its all innocent and you are honest with the people you chat to and you partner about what you are doing then its ok.
its when you lie that you are single or hide your flirty chats from your partner that the trouble will start. Coz lets face it if it is innocent what do you have to hide??
2006-11-02 14:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its all innocent and above board and you are honest with the people you are chatting with by letting them know you are already in a relationship then yes its fine. Enjoy the compliments and forget the insults!
2006-10-31 15:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lovewilltearusapart 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong and I think you know it. The excuse is, that your b/f is shy, but that's just an excuse. You need to talk to him, and tell him that it would be nice if he complimented you. He is shy because he is insecure....shyness is a type of pride..
2006-10-31 17:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by mikers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A little flirting is harmless but if you go too far like exchanging nude pictures or something like that, that is no good. Sounds like there is something missing in the relationship.
2006-10-31 15:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by defenserocks41 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋