I've been in a relationship for almost 9 months. I wish I could say they have been a wonderful 9 months. Earily on in my relationship I cheated on my girlfriend. I confessed to her because I made a huge mistake. Somehow she found it in her to forgive me. But its been more than 6 months since that happened. She still brings it up on me. What do I do? What do i say? Everyday I regret what happened. I love her and I dont want this to ruin us. please someone help.
2006-10-31 07:09:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that if she keeps bringing the past into the present she might ruin the future and you don't want this to happen 'cause you love her. If she loves you and has any brain she'll understand.
If she doesn't you might have to consider your future without her in it.
2006-10-31 07:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by I Drum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she truly forgave you, she wouldn't bring it up again unless there is another issue of trust. Remember you opened pandora's box by cheating. It's good that you confessed especially early in your relationship. It takes time to rebuild trust with someone who has betrayed you even when you forgive them. Your forgive but you don't forget. It sounds like the two of you need professional help. I would seek some counseling on an individual level and also as a couple. If you really love each other and want this relationship to work and survive the infidelity, you must get help to get past it. It sounds like you do, the question is does she. Tell her you love her and want this relationship to work. Then ask her is she loves you and wants the same. Her answer will tell you what to do. If she says yes to both get counseling and survive. If she says no, let her go and move on. If she says yes to one and no the other, she needs to go to counseling and figure out what she wants and go from there. Be prepared to hear things that will hurt and surprise you. I wish you the best and hope things work out for you.
2006-10-31 15:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out is how you fix the problem. If she is using this now she will use it forever and never drop it. She frankly did not forgive you for it and is still hurt about it you should just let it go, better to have it end at 9 months than 3 years.
2006-10-31 15:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by bkweeks2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the exact same thing that happened with me and my boyfriend, except we have been together for a year and like 9 months. I still sometimes bring it up. It hurt more than anything. Your girlfriend is probably scared, she doesnt want to get hurt again. As much stuff as my boyfriend does for me its always in the back of my mind, is he cheating? I truely love him with all my heart, and i know he loves me. It will get better. Just tell her how you feel and tell her that if she knows that you love her, she knows where your heart is, and where it stays
2006-10-31 15:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by raelynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "fix" the problem by developing some integrity and giving the women you date enough respect to at least break-up with them before you go sniffing around other women.
You don't "fix" your relationsip. You broke it. If she's good enough to stay with, she deserves your respect, and if you just figured that out, well good for you, but cut the poor girl loose and let her find somebody who will respect her.
2006-10-31 15:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that this is hurtful to you. Ask her to cmpletely forgive you once and for all and to never bring it up again. If she does throw it up to you...even in anger, then you need to re-evaluate the relationship. I commend you on your honesty
2006-10-31 15:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should of thought of that before you tlold her,,, trust me even if a guy cheats on a girl and the girl is a realy nice person,,, please dont ever tell her,,, at the beguining she might not said some thing but thats not easy to forget,,, what she would not know will not hurt,,,..thats sounds bad comming from a girl
2006-10-31 15:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by Airforcepink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the fatal error that will haunt you till the relationship is over. She's got you and can use it whenever she wants because you screwed up dude!
2006-10-31 15:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by The Druid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she HASN'T forgiven you. Saying sorry is hard enough, but forgiving is an even greater challenge so don't hold it against her if she can't.
2006-10-31 15:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Well you shouldnt have done it in the first place.
2. she's stupid for still being with you
3. she needs to get over it and so do you, its in the past
4. maybe u should break up
2006-10-31 15:12:16 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋