She's very controlling and thinks she's right about everything!
2006-10-31 07:09:36 · 7 answers · asked by Nicole S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We mothers are all complicated and controlling and think we are right about everything when it comes to our daughters. I'm sorry about the controlling part of that. It's tough to transition from a mom of a child to a mom of an adult. Moms need reminding that they have done well in teaching you to make good choices in life.
I doubt that she doesn't value your opinion. She's probably just rushing through it so that she can tell you about her opinion. It's okay to disagree with her. Just say, I disagree because..... I love you mom but this is what I think and I hope you will support with this decision.
I think its that we moms spend so many years protecting you and guiding and teaching you, that is difficult to step down from our post and let you be the grown-up that you are.
Be patient, your mom will get it. Keep talking to her.
2006-10-31 07:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by BParker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had to tell my mother that I am an adult and I'm going to make my own decisions and there will be choices she is not going to agree with. Also I've had to talk to my mother and explain before hand if I'm sharing information or if I'm actually asking for advice before I talk about anything.
My mother has gotten better. She still had a hard time biting her tongue and sometimes I will ask her advice so she feels like I still need her. and I still do from time to time. She used to give me advice or TELL ME what to do! But after talking to her and reminding her she has gotten better.
2006-10-31 15:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heaven is under the feet of your mother. very strong idiom. you must forgive your mother as she has had forgiveness on you when you were a child. when you broke the dishes how she smiled and cleaned it up. when something happened to your bed as she cleaned it up and still loved you for years. you gotta respect your mother not her respect you. if she thinks she is right let it be. your treating and talking Subhanahu wa ta'ala is an Islamic Arabic phrase meaning, "praised and exalted is He about your mother as is she was a girl you met at school whom you have a fude against. your mother rememeber her because if you did not have her you would cry. your mother forgive her for she forgave you through out life your mother love her as she loves you, your mother dont talk about her for it was she who raised you to be the lady you are and sh is who raised you to respect your self as you do. and you are talking about her then when some one agrees with you and says something stupid about her that will anger you yet it was you who spoke about it.
2006-10-31 15:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by servant of AR-RAHIM mostMERCIFUL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter to let her know how she's making you feel, she probably doesn't realise she's draining your confidence and making you feel undervalued. Mothers want the best for their children and sometimes they can't see past the own ambitions and hopes. The best of luck to you ,I hope it all works out and your mother realises she needs to change her attitude.
2006-10-31 15:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by SHARON R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you should have stated your age that would help a lot more with answers. And whether are not you live with mother or not.
2006-10-31 15:23:00 · answer #5 · answered by kryptonnite2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have the same problem.what you should do is ignore what she says and make her realize that her opinion doesnt count for as much as she thinks it does.eventually she'll back off.
2006-10-31 16:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by maggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove her wrong in some way or another
2006-10-31 15:17:39 · answer #7 · answered by fabianoindustries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋