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My best guy friend has never written me a letter in the 11 yrs i have known him and i have written him over 1000 letters. Well he recently went into a drug re-hab center. He finally wrote me and in this letter he says how much he wants to be with me and how much he loves me. He also says he is tired of being alone and he needs a girl like me who wont leave him when times get rough. He also said he is going to come and get me and my daughter to start a life with us . Well my problem is i told him last december how much in love with him iam. Well i talked to his dad and told his dad we are going to be together and his dad said that he doesnt know if i should believe him cuz he has like 3 other girls on the hook. My question.... is my best guy freind just saying all this? or does he want me? keep in my mind he lives in another state. Please read my "please help hurting" to understand. Also please know he poured his heart and soul into this letter. Do guys go through all that trouble?

2006-10-31 07:09:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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this dude is grasping at straws. its kinda obvious that he has absolutely nothing to offer to make your life better

i think, just from the fact that you asked this question, that you really really need to think about your own life. youve been chasing this obvious loser for 11 years with over 1000 letters and he never gave you the time of day, now that his life is really messed up he's reaching out to you and youre actually considering it? you really need to value yourself, and particularly now that youre a mother, a lot more. the only reason he is interested in you is because he needs money, which he'll probably spend on more drugs and mess up your life and your daughter.

you deserve better. this guy will make your life living hell. get a restraining order. i'm serious. i wish you the best of luck

2006-10-31 07:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by unkerpaulie 3 · 0 0

Dude is in rehab.... Get a clue...
His life is out of control because he has chosen that for himself... If YOU can give him the stability that he can't give himself, he's going to USE YOU to do that for him FOR NOW.
I'd listen to your head and his father.....
Dude is obviously a mess and he's relying on others to make him feel better about himself... He won't change and I suggest to you that you realize that sooner than later...

Why would you be attracted to an addict anyway? Maybe you should work on yourself and make a life for your daughter and you together and let him go....
If he gets it together (by himself) than one day you two can make a life together but I would tell him this.... Tell him that he has a year to keep clean and get his life in order and have zero contact with him during the year... When it's in order, if you still feel the same way you two can begin a relationship.

I wouldn't settle for anything less than that..... WELL, actually I wouldn't waste my time on someone with this much crap... it's only trouble and a safety issue for your child...

2006-10-31 15:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 1 0

Dont buy into it. When a guy is in jail(or equivalent) they tend to pour their hearts out like you said. And they do it with many girls, trying to have one on the hook for when they get out.

2006-10-31 15:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by vanman8u 5 · 0 0

11 years, **** That

2006-10-31 15:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by A-Bo 1 · 0 0

He's in drug rehab. Right now, he'll say anything.

2006-10-31 15:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You both are meant for each other.

2006-10-31 15:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by just1more 3 · 0 0

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